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OK Gang here is the deal.
I am 55 years old and NEVER had my ears pierced.
I know, I know, what kind of woman am I?. Well I grew up a tomboy and never had anyone to show me what a real woman is all about cause my mother was the sole bread winner and had no time for me.
Plus,I am a coward lol, and I try to stay away from pain as mush as possible.
I know they say nowadays it is painless, even if that were true, I know my own body. And I know that if I did get my ears pierced, my luck I would get an ear infection and right now that is the last thing I need

Anyway the scenario is with my DH Who says he wants me to do this. And If I do he says he will lay off the idea of wanting any kind of a dog ever.
This scenario I find very hard to believe. So, I just don't know what to do right now. I will try to stall as long as possible.
But I know the topic will come up again. ITMT
Half of me is willing to take this gamble. And half of me says forget about it the whole thing.
I can see it all now,
First it will start with the pierced ears then what next,
fake nails? And wearing dresses, and dog forbid make up?.
No fucking way. This is not me, and he knew that when he married me. So, this is a very slippery slope I am headed for.
And I don't understand why all of a sudden he wants
me doing this.
But until I hear from all of you about the
Pro's & con's of having ear or ears pierced
I think I may pass.
All comments are always welcomed.

Well, I couldn't wait to get my ears pierced! My parents wouldn't allow it until I turned 14. So on my B'day, my mom took me out and I got them pierced. I thought it hurt like hell.

Then in University, I got two more piercings (one in each ear). One piercing is high up on the left earlobe and the other is next to the original piercing on the right side.

I never wear more then one earring in each ear anymore though.

My Aunt is 72 and never had her ears pierced. She said she was too scared. She will wear clip-on earrings for formal occasions, but that's it.

I picked "other - explain"

I had them pierced when I was about 13, but the machine was broken and it pulled the stud back out. So she tried again but it took a different route, and I had one hole in the front and then two in the back. I let it heal up and tried again a few months later.

I think I had them pierced through most of my teen years, just one hole in each ear, minus the scar tissue from the first few tries that failed. In my 20s I let them close up.

I am not into body piercing at all. It doesn't interest me. I have a LOT of skin tags, and I just hate things pulling or tugging at flaps of skin, never mind my earlobes. Ugh.

All those years I wore earrings, they ALWAYS hurt. I think because of all the scar tissue.

When I was a teen, I desperately wanted my ears pierced. My mother and aunt had theirs done at home by my grandmother with a needle and a potato and some alcohol. My father refused to consent to having mine done. He said when I was 18, if I wanted it done, I could make that choice, but he was not going to be responsible for it.

I hated him at the time for doing that, but he turned out to be very wise. I watched far too many of my peers get infections or have to have the piercings redone because they didn't keep earrings in often enough. I'm not a terribly girly type person anyway, so piercings would have been a disaster for me at that age. By the time I was old enough to make the choice, I wasn't really influenced by peer pressure on the issue. I figured I'd made it through high school without pierced ears, so I'd be fine without them for the rest of my life. The few times I have worn clip-on earrings, I've ended up losing one of the pair anyway, so my ears are naked and proud.

Uh, isn't the bigger issue here that your husband is trying to barter holes in YOUR body to drop the idea of having a dog?

I have between 20-30 piercings, and as long as you go to a reputable, clean shop and follow the aftercare instructions, you are generally okay. If YOU want your ears pierced, then go get them done.. at a piercing shop, where they use sterile needles, not at a mall where they use a piercing gun.

If it's just your husband who wants your ears pierced, tell him to mind his own body and not worry about yours.

(07-18-2010 10:27 PM)bellis_coldwine Wrote: [ -> ]Uh, isn't the bigger issue here that your husband is trying to barter holes in YOUR body to drop the idea of having a dog?

I have between 20-30 piercings, and as long as you go to a reputable, clean shop and follow the aftercare instructions, you are generally okay. If YOU want your ears pierced, then go get them done.. at a piercing shop, where they use sterile needles, not at a mall where they use a piercing gun.

If it's just your husband who wants your ears pierced, tell him to mind his own body and not worry about yours.

Thanks 'bellis_coldwine' ITA with all of your fine points.
Especially the "Body part" I will keep that one in the memory banks, lol.

I do have a quick question though. WHY do you dissaprove of a Mall piercing gun? Hubby had his done in the mall & he never had a problem with it. Plus I know many friends who had theirs done in the mall too. I was just curious as to why you do not approve of that?

Quote:so my ears are naked and proud

dune67: I LOVE THAT! I might make that my new slogan! LOL

(07-18-2010 10:35 PM)Truckerswife Wrote: [ -> ]I do have a quick question though. WHY do you dissaprove of a Mall piercing gun? Hubby had his done in the mall & he never had a problem with it. Plus I know many friends who had theirs done in the mall too. I was just curious as to why you do not approve of that?

Here's a short article that basically explains everything. Piercing

You can either have a 17 year old mall employee with a day of training on a non-sterile machine that causes tissue damage vs. a well trained professional with sterile tools, in a sterile environment. The choice seems easy to me.

I had my ears pierced when I was 6 (I'm now 29) at the mall. They used a piercing gun and it go jammed while it was on my left ear. They actually had to get a screwdriver and take the thing apart to get it off of my ear. Needless to say, it hurt A LOT and I now have a reasonable fear of anything that pierces my skin. When I turned 18 I decided to get a second hole in each ear, also at the mall (in an attempt to overcome my fear). Once again, they used the piercing gun and this time it didn't get jammed and didn't really hurt. But the anxiety was so bad that I've never even considered getting anything else pierced.

On the other hand, one of my friends got her bellybutton pierced at a piercing shop, but didn't do a good job of cleaning it and it became infected. I didn't have an issue with infection either time, but when I was 6 I had my mom to make sure I cleaned my ears and when I was 18 I was responsible enough to do it myself. I think that if you actually take the time to clean your piercings like you are suppose to, then you are very unlikely to get an infection regardless of if you get the piercing at the mall or at a piercing shop.

Agreed with Bellis... I answered the poll but my answer is irrelevant to your problem. I find it hard to believe that someone would think that they could trade an act on someone else's body for a lack of desire for something. What happens if you take out the earings and the holes close over? Does that mean he can ask for a dog again? That seems completely loopy, I don't even know what to suggest.

I wanted to have them pierced when I was a kid, even in Jr high, etc but I wasn't allowed. Once I turned 18, I just kind of put it off. My sister had hers done and it looked like a pain in the butt to deal with. My hair was always long and you could never see my ears so I just didn't see the point... now I don't care anymore.

I have mine pierced but I don't wear earrings except for interviews and for special evenings out or parties. They really irritate my ears - they get all red and swollen. Not so nice. I'm not a jewelry person, anyway.

I'm with Ziggy and Bellis - if you don't want it this isn't an appropriate barter with your DH about a dog. These are separate issues!

They're your ears. You decide whether or not you want them pierced. Sheesh. It's a pretty simple concept.

He might as well have said "If you have a baby with me, I'll quit bugging you about getting a dog".

As for me, I couldn't wait to get mine pierced so, much like dune67, my mom took me to the mall at 14. It didn't hurt a bit and I was so happy. Many years later, I wanted another piercing so got two more but this time, it did hurt. Aside from that though, I just didn't like having earrings that high up on my ears.

One set of holes is enough and I love, love love earrings. I have drawers full of them. I'm lucky that I can wear the cheap stuff.

There's something bigger at issue here and several other posters already mentioned it. This is YOUR body, YOUR decision, and what other people do shouldn't matter. This seems really disturbing to me.

But if you just want to know, I had my ears pierced when I was about 12, at the mall in the late 70s. Then a few years later I had 3 more holes put in my left ear, but my right still only has one. I had small infections here and there over the years, I just treated them with alcohol and antiseptic ointments and it was fine, but I haven't had an infection in many, many years.

Bellis is right about going to a proper professional piercing place and staying away from the mall. There weren't piercing studios around when I was a kid, but if I wanted any more piercings I'd certainly go to a real piercing studio now and avoid the mall. I would very much like an industrial piercing and I'd only go to a pro for that, but everyone I've talked to about it has told me the healing time is about a *year* and it hurts during that whole time, and I'm not really into that, so I guess no industrial piercing for me

I had to google industrial piercing. Ouch!!! Noooooooooo!!!!!!!

(07-18-2010 10:27 PM)bellis_coldwine Wrote: [ -> ]Uh, isn't the bigger issue here that your husband is trying to barter holes in YOUR body to drop the idea of having a dog?

Wondering the same thing. I find it odd that he would suddenly find this to be important.

I have 7 earrings in my ears, and love them, but if you're not into piercings or at least wearing earrings, its probably not worth the effort of cleaning the new piercings. Don't let him pressure you, it is a risk you'll be taking with your body and you should do it on your terms only. If I were you, I'd demand at least 2 carat diamond (or whatever your favorite, expensive gem is) earrings, in addition to the no-dog agreement, and see he'd still be onboard. If he's like my husband, he probably won't be willing to invest that much into it, LOL. I bet its a ploy to keep badgering you about a dog.

I had my 6 lobe priercings done at the mall, before all the info came out on the infection risk due to unclean piercing guns. After that I got my cartelidge pierced on my left ear for my 21st birthday.

My advice would be to go with the lobe(s) because they heal so much faster, thus less infection risk, and to make sure you invest in quality jewelry to avoid possible allergic reactions to the metal in cheap earnings. Look for jewelry-grade surgical steel, and a captive ball ring is usually good because it doesn't have a back clasp thing that can irritate the fresh piercing.

I'm 29 and don't have mine pierced. I never had a desire to get them pierced until recently, but I haven't done it because my hair is so frighteningly thick that I can just picture it getting caught on the earrings and ripping them out. There are soooooo many funky earrings out there, but having them rip out would be crazy painful. Besides, God knows I don't need another thing to spend money on.

Koi reminds me of a good point - people who make ultimatums such as these ("If you do something that you dislike then I will stop asking you for what I want") often do it because they don't expect you to do the thing that you dislike, and then they can feel justified if you refuse. A conversation that might have been disallowed - "We are never going to do that so stop asking" - is changed to "I can bug you about this every day forever because you won't agree to change yourself".

This may not be the case with your husband, but keep it in mind because it is very manipulative behaviour.

TW, go out and buy a couple pairs of those magnetic earrings. They really look like pierced earrings on. Tell him he can't touch your ears for a few weeks until they heal (wink, wink). See what he says about the dog then, lol.

Well gang after careful consideration to everyone's comments and suggestions. I decided to tell him to go Fuck himself, lol. Cause there is no fucking way I am getting my ears pierced.
Not only did your all of you help to contribute to my decision
But earlier this week, I had the opportunity to visit my good neighbor S.
I wanted to show S. My new white gold diamond ring.
Well she was entertaining some other company, and I felt like I was intruding. But she told me to stay.
So we sat and chatted and of course she introduced me to her guests.
And it was apparent that the mother was very upset
Well to make a long story short her daughter was suffering from a massive ear infection due to her just getting her ears pierced. And she was mad at her EX cause he did not pick the daughter up to take her to a DR. Well, I did not stick around for the final outcome since it was none of my business anyway, and I really did not want to stay long, cause S was not running her A/C and it was hot as hell in her home. So I just was polite as I could be, and excused myself and went home.

But, Call it kismet, call it fate call, or whatever you want.
But that was the final straw for me.
NO WAY am I putting myself through that mess.
I don't care how safe it might be with a professional or whatever.
AND ITA Like many of you said to me. IT IS my body
And I will decide when or IF I ever get it done.
Granted, I am a jewelry freak. I love nice REAL pieces
Like the ring I have Plus another ring that is worn on my other hand that happens to be my birthstone too.
(DEC, See pix enclosed)
Which is a Blue Topaz.
And I know DH would NEVER cough up the $$ for 2K real diamond stones for my ears, lol.
But he did agree to buy me matching Blue topaz earrings that I saw at of all Places Sam's Club, lol, that I adored.

But still, to me its not worth the work and aggravation of it.
And I think that is why hubby wants me to do it.
So that I would have something to work at.
He may feel, I don't do enough work.
( like keeping this house clean ain't enought for him)

So in lieu of not working in training a puppy
Maybe I would work to get my ears in shape to look nice! I really think that was what was in his head.

But, Fuck it and Fuck him. No way am I going to do it.
So, case closed!!!!!!!!!!!
And MANY THANKS for everyone's input on this subject .
Of course I won't really curse out my hubby, lol.
I am sure with everything on his mind with his job. He has forgotten all about it.
But just in case he hasn't, I will tell him. NO!
So he can chat away about a puppy all he wants, I won't care! No way, am I putting holes in my ears.
If "dog" wanted man to have holes in his ears, he would have put them their, LOL. As My mother use to say to me may she RIP.

And its not that I am chicken about the initial pain
of getting them. I just know I am the type to get infections. And I don't need that crap. Especially since I do not heal well anyway due to my diabetes.
So, No pierced ears for this lady, thank you very much.