I am so pissed off right now, I can hardly see or think straight! The "friend" in the big city I was going to stay with for a week or two while my trailer gets moved up there has just emailed me and told me I cannot stay with her. Yeah, this is the time to tell me -- less than 24 hours before my new job starts! FUCK!
No, I was not moving in lock, stock and barrel. I was camping out there during the week (Sun. to Thurs. nights) while working, and coming home on weekend to do more packing and organizing. And not for ages - just for 1-2 weeks. I was going to pay for food and give her money for increase in utilities and such - was not expecting a free ride!
The problems? Her 'boyfriend' refuses to come to her house if someone else is there. Ain't that some shit? Also some long-time friend of hers was pissed off that she was letting me stay with her. Yeah, that is a nice friend there you got yourself! Never mind she was trying to help out someone who has no one else within 700 miles who could help.
This is NOT what I wanted to deal with when starting a brand new job and trying to be calm about the move -- no matter how many things got screwed up or not done. I was trying to remain zen about it all - but this takes the cake. I now have to repack the car and leave earlier and find a place to stay -- if I even can. I have next to no cash and my bank's debit cards do not work in the big city without incurring big charges.
The one thing I do not understand is this; why did she even offer for me to stay with her if there were this many problems that would arise from it? I did not ask her - in fact I told her I was going to find a weekly rental to stay in while up there. She insisted that was not necessary -- otherwise I would have been up to the big city already while off both jobs this week and had a place arranged.
Just FUCK!
to you Ozarkmoon. If you lived in Ohio? You could stay with me? I could use the company.
I am so sorry, this happened to you
I wish you all the best of luck with your new job too.
And what a lousy thing for a so called friend to do to you
I mean really she could tell her boy toy to cool it for 2 weeks. She made an obligation to you first and she should have kept it
I hate when people pull shit like that. Didn't anyone ever tell her that "absense makes the heart grow fonder" gheezz with friends like her, you don't need enemies!
So I take it you have no parents or siblings alive? Or that you can tolerate for 2 weeks?
That does suck when your on your own like this. I hope you can work something out for yourself.
But hey my door is open to you
I know its a remote option for you, but at least you know the offer is there
You don't need any "friend" like this. I'm really, really sorry this is happening. Are you going to say anything about it to her?
Which big city are you talking about?
Mark - In Missouri - I laughingly call it the big city, because it is the one everyone goes to and works in, but it is smaller than 150K in population.
E- why bother? she has shown her true meddle when the going gets tough and that is not going to change. I just do not have the energy for a lot of dramatics right now - I just want the bloody move and all of it over with. Sadly, it almost makes me wish I had not even applied for the damned job!
TW- thanks - if I am ever in Ohio, I will ring you.
And, no, my folks have both been gone several years and I'm an only kid.
I meant later, when all the hoopla has died down. I was thinking she might contact you and then what might you say? Other than that I would cease all contact from my end.
That's shitty. That's certainly no friend. My aunt did something kind of similar to me, she told me she'd store my stuff when I moved to England. She was the one really pushing and encouraging me to move, which was good, but part of the motivation was that I didn't have to worry about my things and I should definitely store them in her attic until I sorted them out later when I figured out where I was going to live permanently. She wanted me to get a U-Haul and drive from southeast tennessee up to Columbus, OH, and drop the stuff off at her house and then leave for London. So as I was preparing for that, a couple of days before I was to do it, she called and said she decided I couldn't store my things in her attic after all, she changed her mind for no reason. So I had to quickly scramble and spend money I didn't have (no job, of course) on a storage unit. My mother always said her sister wasn't reliable, and she was right, that was the first time I experienced it. Not the last, either.
I asked because if it was in St. Louis I could help you find a place. I know people in Jeff City and Springfield too.
Damn, that sucks. Is there any possibility of getting just a fleabag motel or something for say a month just so you have a place to stay? You should be able to negotiate a decent rate for that time period.
WTF? Why can't she go stay at the BF's house if he doesn't want to come over? Sounds like a BS excuse to me. Some "friend"! Ugh! Wish I could say or do something to help.
Wow, Ozark, that's just the worst! I'm so sorry this is happening, and wish I knew someone in MO to help you out!
((ozarkmoon)) that sucks!!! I'm so sorry this happened. Just what you don't need - additional stress on top of taking a new job and moving. I hope it works out that you find a place that works and isn't too costly while you get your trailer and get settled. Hugs.
ETA - we know someone in Fulton who might be able to help out - if that's close?
That sux!
Christ.
What is WRONG with people these days?
Nobody has any accountability or spine.
Sounds like she has quite a loser BF and a "friend" who tells her who she can and cannot have in the her own home? Odd.
This girl needs some counseling.
Oh and what Eslbee said-I'll bet $$$ that she will come around once YOU finally pull yourself through all of this. (because you will you know
) Then you won't need her. Bet you'll hear all of the "I'm sorry and it was a misunderstanding and things will change, blah, blah, blah"......TOO LATE.
Bye-bye.
so after almost 3 weeks in flea bag motels, i am home and sleeping in my own bed tonight. strange - this 'friend' has only called me once at the end of the first week i was in town. that is fine. if she doesn't give a flying fig about helping me even settle in, screw her.
Glad to hear you're in your own bed tonight. I hate when people go back on their word!
Good for you! I'm glad to hear that the worst of it is all over. This is the start of a brand new and exciting adventure for you! New job, new neighbourhood, and new friendships
I hope you have a good new place lined up to live. Good luck!
(08-05-2010 11:38 PM)ozarkmoon Wrote: [ -> ]so after almost 3 weeks in flea bag motels, i am home and sleeping in my own bed tonight. strange - this 'friend' has only called me once at the end of the first week i was in town. that is fine. if she doesn't give a flying fig about helping me even settle in, screw her.
I can understand this. I recently lost a friend that I've had for six years because she has absolutely no empathy (it's a long story). It took me a while to really figure it out and then I finally realized she's been like this for a while and that it's not because of me.
Friends help each other, plain and simple.