09-07-2010, 09:22 AM
Congrats on being sober for 2 weeks. That's a huge accomplishment! Good luck with everything - I hope this is your ticket to a new, happier life. We're here for you.
09-07-2010, 09:22 AM
09-07-2010, 07:43 PM
I am so sorry to hear about your books and jewelry! That is awful. I also get very emotionally attached to my collections and it is heartbreaking to have to part with things that you treasure.
09-07-2010, 09:35 PM
Thanks CFS. It wasn't as bad as it sounds. My favorite pieces of jewelry were saved but it was just the idea of having to sacrifice some that bugs me. The books were almost all recovered thank god. It was just the whole principle of not being able to take everything of mine.
Another good thing about this is that it has let me get rid of a lot of the clutter I didn't need.
Another good thing about this is that it has let me get rid of a lot of the clutter I didn't need.
09-08-2010, 10:16 AM
Way to stay positive, Eddy. I know it's really hard right now.
Here's to making a new start!
Jen
Here's to making a new start!
Jen
09-08-2010, 02:01 PM
Eddy,
First of all, I am sorry about the stress and anxiety that you have had to endure related to your move. Moving is always so stressful! Personally, as a person who has done her share of moving, it is always a big fucking hassle....no matter how well planned the move is. You are totally right on about the clutter-moving is an excellent way of getting rid of things that you just do not want or need. It is also kinda fun finding that one item you thought was lost forever, lol.
Now, as to the "junk" reference, I have found that if the items are things that others really aren't interested in, it will be referred to as "junk". Even if it is nice jewelery or terrific novels...if it is not their taste in jewelery or books, it is now "junk". I too, think it is extremely insensitive to call others belongings "junk". When you go to their house, do you call their things "junk"? Ha! You should...then throw in a "just kidding". Seriously though, I have been in homes and garages literally full of "junk", but never in a million years would I ever say that to the owner of those things. Thinking it is one thing, saying hurtful words is another.
I am so proud of you for being able to stop drinking on your own! This is a huge step. It might not seem like a big deal now, but it really is. And usually, the longer you go without drinking, the less you will want to drink. Not saying you wont miss it or get the urge or feel angry about it or even mourn the loss of drinking, but it does get easier to say no.
I don't know if you remember, but I quit drinking just over a year ago. It has been one of the best things that I have done for myself in years. What I would recommend is this-see a Doctor now. (I bet you would qualify for the free clinics, too.) I am recommending that you see an MD because most people that have abused alcohol for any length of time do tend to have underlying depression and anxiety issues. Not saying that you should be popping pills, but if that overwhelming urge to drink comes on due to feeling anxious, sad, angry etc., it is much better (IMO) to take 1 Ativan and calm down and still remember what is going on be able to handle the situation in a reasonable way. Better then getting plastered and not remembering a thing and then wanting to have a few drinks to get rid of that shitty feeling, thus, starting the cycle of drinking to feel "better", again.
Your family cares, but I know how tough it can be when someone else is paying for things, too. You are so smart and funny Eddy! You can do whatever you want, IMO. Don't beat yourself up abut not finding a job immediately. It is really, really tough to find work these days.
Take care.
First of all, I am sorry about the stress and anxiety that you have had to endure related to your move. Moving is always so stressful! Personally, as a person who has done her share of moving, it is always a big fucking hassle....no matter how well planned the move is. You are totally right on about the clutter-moving is an excellent way of getting rid of things that you just do not want or need. It is also kinda fun finding that one item you thought was lost forever, lol.
Now, as to the "junk" reference, I have found that if the items are things that others really aren't interested in, it will be referred to as "junk". Even if it is nice jewelery or terrific novels...if it is not their taste in jewelery or books, it is now "junk". I too, think it is extremely insensitive to call others belongings "junk". When you go to their house, do you call their things "junk"? Ha! You should...then throw in a "just kidding". Seriously though, I have been in homes and garages literally full of "junk", but never in a million years would I ever say that to the owner of those things. Thinking it is one thing, saying hurtful words is another.
I am so proud of you for being able to stop drinking on your own! This is a huge step. It might not seem like a big deal now, but it really is. And usually, the longer you go without drinking, the less you will want to drink. Not saying you wont miss it or get the urge or feel angry about it or even mourn the loss of drinking, but it does get easier to say no.
I don't know if you remember, but I quit drinking just over a year ago. It has been one of the best things that I have done for myself in years. What I would recommend is this-see a Doctor now. (I bet you would qualify for the free clinics, too.) I am recommending that you see an MD because most people that have abused alcohol for any length of time do tend to have underlying depression and anxiety issues. Not saying that you should be popping pills, but if that overwhelming urge to drink comes on due to feeling anxious, sad, angry etc., it is much better (IMO) to take 1 Ativan and calm down and still remember what is going on be able to handle the situation in a reasonable way. Better then getting plastered and not remembering a thing and then wanting to have a few drinks to get rid of that shitty feeling, thus, starting the cycle of drinking to feel "better", again.
Your family cares, but I know how tough it can be when someone else is paying for things, too. You are so smart and funny Eddy! You can do whatever you want, IMO. Don't beat yourself up abut not finding a job immediately. It is really, really tough to find work these days.
Take care.
09-08-2010, 02:41 PM
Beachbum, congrats on your year-ish. That's huge!
Eddy, another reason to see a doctor would be to get a physical. There are--as you likely know--a lot of physical problems that can crop up as a result of the drinking. You can probably address ALL of that in one visit.
Jen M.
Eddy, another reason to see a doctor would be to get a physical. There are--as you likely know--a lot of physical problems that can crop up as a result of the drinking. You can probably address ALL of that in one visit.
Jen M.