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Hello I am a newbie I am very impressed with this forum. Its great to find a place to get support in a world that is so child centric. I have been getting bingoed big time over on another forum by somebody questioning my choice to be childfree. His comments are bordering on the ridiculous. Here is a link if anyone would like to see...

http://www.topix.com/forum/world/austral...http://www.topix.com/forum/world/australia/T40J55T2CBAOLTOHO/p

This person is now resorting to personal attacks to try to shame me. Why is it that some people cannot accept a choice that does not affect them ?

Anyway I am looking forward to getting to know you all.

Cheers!

Welcome! I'm Dana, early 30's, dog-owner, who knew from a child that motherhood wasn't for me. I didn't think much about it but thankfully a year into my marriage DH was gung-ho on the no-kid thing.

I also have some medical issues, and I'm so tired of people asking me about kids. LUCKILY most people that know me, know my situation and I don't get bothered by it a lot. I've actually met some really good parents where I'm at. Most of my friends are parents. However my DH is in the military and it's soon to start all over again.

Welcome, this board is excellent.

(06-28-2010 06:19 AM)Dana Wrote: [ -> ]Welcome! I'm Dana, early 30's, dog-owner, who knew from a child that motherhood wasn't for me. I didn't think much about it but thankfully a year into my marriage DH was gung-ho on the no-kid thing.

I also have some medical issues, and I'm so tired of people asking me about kids. LUCKILY most people that know me, know my situation and I don't get bothered by it a lot. I've actually met some really good parents where I'm at. Most of my friends are parents. However my DH is in the military and it's soon to start all over again.

Welcome, this board is excellent.

Thankyou Dana for the welcome I am 34 years old, have been marrid for 10 years and thankfully my husband feels the same way as I do. I have people in my life that are supportive but there are also alot of people that dont understand. My inlaws are very dissapointed asmy husband is an only child and they are dessperate for grandchildren. I am sure they resent me for this

Welcome, Free! This is a really great place here.

Welcome freespirit. You found the right place!

Welcome! It's great that you found this place of like-minded people.

(06-28-2010 09:42 AM)Litchie Wrote: [ -> ]Welcome! It's great that you found this place of like-minded people.

Oh thank you so much guys for the warm Welcome I am so glad I found this place.

It's great your husband is on your page. It's easier to blame you then to admit that their child does not want to give them the grandchildren they think are owed to them. That way they don't have to realize that no matter who he is with, it won't happen. Making you the enemy makes it easier for them to cope, I think.

My husband has not spoken to his mother in over 2 years. She refuses to admit she's anything less than perfect - and she can't bear to think for a second that anything could be her fault. Of course if your own son isn't speaking to you how could you not know it? Oh that's right, blame it all on his WIFE so you don't have to admit you may have done something wrong.

In-law... can't shoot em... oh wait... ha ha.

(06-28-2010 09:57 AM)Dana Wrote: [ -> ]It's great your husband is on your page. It's easier to blame you then to admit that their child does not want to give them the grandchildren they think are owed to them. That way they don't have to realize that no matter who he is with, it won't happen. Making you the enemy makes it easier for them to cope, I think.

My husband has not spoken to his mother in over 2 years. She refuses to admit she's anything less than perfect - and she can't bear to think for a second that anything could be her fault. Of course if your own son isn't speaking to you how could you not know it? Oh that's right, blame it all on his WIFE so you don't have to admit you may have done something wrong.

In-law... can't shoot em... oh wait... ha ha.

I am on speaking terms with my inlaws... just. I dont feel at all comftable in their presence. We have nothing in common and my mother in law is the type that is ALWAYS knitting clothes for peoples babies. If we ever did have a child she would completley take over and I would not be able to get her off my front door step that I know for sure. One day she said something that left me completley speechless. She said "have a baby and we will raise it" In other words she wanted us to have a baby and hand it over to her. OMG!!!

NO way! That is what my father said to me! He said have a baby and give it to him! How crazy!!!!!!

I already welcomed you elsewhere, but I'm welcoming you again.

No one here will judge you, that's for sure!

I'm Jen. I've been childfree since I was about 8 years old. I don't get bothered about it too much, but every once in a while, someone will make a dumb comment. I just roll my eyes and ignore them, reallly. I'm 40.

My boyfriend is 100% with me. I put it right out front that I don't want kids, so I've bypassed a lot of headaches, I think.

We live in the DC area.

Jen M.

Hello Freespirit, as one of the eldest in this group I welcome you to the boards
My name is Truckerswife TW for short.
My hubby is a Trucker and he is over the road=OTR M-F
I am a cat owner of a little over 2 years and a new dog mom of just 2 days ago.
Details of that in other theads.
Anyway, Hubby & I are blissfully child free for almost 25 years
Our silver anniversary fall out on 7-14 While my hubby is out making a living for us,
I will be busy teaching my new dog to socialize with the world on that day.
Too bad, parents can't teach their kids the same thing, LOL
I always knew I never wanted kids.
The reasons are endless. But the feelings never died. And after 25 years, I still have no regrets whatsoever.

Anyway, if your ever overwhelmed by all the Bingo'ing
Feel free to PM me anytime.
Again and happy Postings

Hi, Freesp! Welcome to our world. If you want the details on how we came to be CF, there's a section called personal stories. I think you'll especially enjoy that.

(06-28-2010 05:06 PM)Dana Wrote: [ -> ]NO way! That is what my father said to me! He said have a baby and give it to him! How crazy!!!!!!

OMG really? Lol... I bet you were just as shocked as I was?

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(06-28-2010 05:20 PM)Bittercat Wrote: [ -> ]I already welcomed you elsewhere, but I'm welcoming you again.

No one here will judge you, that's for sure!

I'm Jen. I've been childfree since I was about 8 years old. I don't get bothered about it too much, but every once in a while, someone will make a dumb comment. I just roll my eyes and ignore them, reallly. I'm 40.

My boyfriend is 100% with me. I put it right out front that I don't want kids, so I've bypassed a lot of headaches, I think.

We live in the DC area.

Jen M.

Hi Jen you sound lik me in the way that you have always known you didnt want kids. I have known since I was 10 years old. My partner is very supportive of my decision. I Come from Australia

Yes I get silly comments all the time. The most recent in a forum was that my "potential ancestors" would be very dissapointed in my choice! Lol can you believe that?

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(06-28-2010 07:04 PM)Truckerswife Wrote: [ -> ]Hello Freespirit, as one of the eldest in this group I welcome you to the boards
My name is Truckerswife TW for short.
My hubby is a Trucker and he is over the road=OTR M-F
I am a cat owner of a little over 2 years and a new dog mom of just 2 days ago.
Details of that in other theads.
Anyway, Hubby & I are blissfully child free for almost 25 years
Our silver anniversary fall out on 7-14 While my hubby is out making a living for us,
I will be busy teaching my new dog to socialize with the world on that day.
Too bad, parents can't teach their kids the same thing, LOL
I always knew I never wanted kids.
The reasons are endless. But the feelings never died. And after 25 years, I still have no regrets whatsoever.

Anyway, if your ever overwhelmed by all the Bingo'ing
Feel free to PM me anytime.
Again and happy Postings

Thank you so much My hubby ALWAYS wanted to be an interstate truch driver. He loves driving. Congratulations on your long marriage. Alot of people dont make it that far. We have been married for almost 10 years so far

What type of Dog do you have? We want to get some pets but it is hard at the moment with a new house and both of us working. We had a beautiful little pesion cat and she died at only 2 years of age from what I susspect was kidney failure. I still miss her so much. She had an amazing temprement.

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(06-28-2010 10:56 PM)eslbee Wrote: [ -> ]Hi, Freesp! Welcome to our world. If you want the details on how we came to be CF, there's a section called personal stories. I think you'll especially enjoy that.

Hi Eslbee Thanks I will look at that thread and share my own story. It does sound like a good read and can I just say how great it is again to be talking to other men and women who are not only understanding but know how I feel? This forum is like a breath of freash air

Yes, Freespirit. I CAN believe that. LOL!

Sadly...

Jen M.

Free, what is a pesion cat?

Maybe Free meant persian cat eslbee.
That can happen, lol.

Hey Freespirit in answer to your question of what kind of dog we got. He is a Hound Mix. A true Heinz 57. I was told he has some beagle, & Lab in him too.
He is very smart, and very cute.
For more info, please see critter section.
"At first You Don't Succeed..." I had a rough month with buying a 6 week old beagle mix. I only had him a week and he died on me.
Cost me a fortune too.
But hey, it beats buying diapers, lol.
This is Day 3 with "Angel". aka "Johnny Angel"
He needs to learn more then anything else to stop biting.
But he is getting better at it. And everytime I get a kiss, he gets a treat, lol.

I know how it is to lose a beloved pet too.
But time does heals all wounds.
I got over "Peanut" pretty quickly as I only had him for a week.
And never got to bond with him.
I will never forget my Misty may she I raised her from a pup and she died at age 10 from complications from long term epilepsy and liver failure. So her whole central nervous system shut down. And the Vet said there was nothing more we could do.
That was a very hard day. To which the anniversary of that sad event, is coming up on 7-9-10. Five years after the fact.
Oh well, like I said time does heal. But I will NEVER forget her
(see Pix)
Oh I know I got to take some more Pix of my new baby "Angel" If he would ever stay still long enough for me to focus, lol.
But there is a Pix of him in the thread I just mentioned above.

Freespirit - shocked maybe, pissed, YES.

TW - hell yeah anything beats buying diapers ha ha. I'd rather scoop dog poo out of the yard (which I do) than change 1 diaper. Bleck.

I always wondered why so many grandparents nowadays are raising their grandkids.. I just chalked it up to my shallow, self absorbed generation.. but maybe part of it is that they WANT to for some unknown reason! Twisted..