At age 42, I really don't get the whole "When are you going to have kids?" thing anymore. But the other day a girl at work made a comment on "when you and your husband have kids, things will be different."
When I told her that we are not having kids (I'm fixed anyway) she looked SHOCKED! SHOCKED I tell you.
Maybe it's wrong of me but I took it as a compliment that someone still thinks of me as a childbearing-aged woman. lol
The "When you and your husband have kids, things will be different." comment is even worse than the "When are you going to have kids?" She's assuming you're having kids regardless. Good for you on shocking her. So many people just don't get it-that people have a choice on having kids. Hopefully, part of the shock to her is she's thinking "Shit. I could've delayed or not have kids at all if I didn't want to. How come nobody told me I had a choice in the matter?"
Don't be surprised if she approaches you in the near future and has the deer-caught-in-headlights look and says: "Is it true what you said about not having kids? Why don't you want them?"
Well actually tonight I heard something that *did* piss me off. My mom told me she was talking to a friend or relative (she conveniently forgot who it was. This person asked my mom if I ever had kids. My mom said that as long as she can remember, I always said I did not want kids. The person said to my mom, "Oh well that's childish talk!!"
Wow, not everyone wants the same thing out of life!! What a concept!! Get over it...
Oh yes, things will be different all right;
No sleep
No sex
No social time
No alone time
No money
No vacations
I think at my next workplace I'm going to tell them that I "can't" have kids. It's true, I can't. They don't have to know why. Then they'll think I'm sensitive about the topic and never bring up babies, kids and pregnancy. J. pointed out that I can also use sick time for "fertility treatments" as I see fit. Love that!
I always told people I could NOT have kids. Which was why for the most part I was left alone.
But that was only 50% true. I could have had kids if I wanted to undergo some sort of surgial procedure to straighten out my tilted cervex. But hell NO, I was not ever going to volunteer for that act.
So, Yep my best advice to you ladies is just to tell them You can't have kids.
And then if they give you this "Oh well you can Adopt" Bullshit.
Then you can throw your mate under the bus and say he won't raise another mans child.
LOL This way you get double sympathy,
(06-10-2010 07:13 AM)NKBurlington Wrote: [ -> ]Oh yes, things will be different all right;
No sleep
No sex
No social time
No alone time
No money
No vacations
Ain't it the truth!