Yep. You're all right. Your house, your rules. I would certainly abide by your rules.
This is why I always ask a person prior to entering THEIR home. "Should I remove my shoes?" They either say "yes" or "no".
Pretty easy.
Words to live by, beachbum.
(09-03-2010 04:32 PM)beachbum Wrote: [ -> ]This is why I always ask a person prior to entering THEIR home. "Should I remove my shoes?" They either say "yes" or "no".
Pretty easy.
I think it is up to the homeowner to request shoes off or not. People who do not have this as a normal part of their daily lives shouldn't be expected to remember to ask when they enter every persons home. If the home owner has rules, they lay them down. Can't expect your guests to have to keep asking what is OK and what isn't.
(09-09-2010 02:21 AM)Arkved Wrote: [ -> ] (09-03-2010 04:32 PM)beachbum Wrote: [ -> ]This is why I always ask a person prior to entering THEIR home. "Should I remove my shoes?" They either say "yes" or "no".
Pretty easy.
I think it is up to the homeowner to request shoes off or not. People who do not have this as a normal part of their daily lives shouldn't be expected to remember to ask when they enter every persons home. If the home owner has rules, they lay them down. Can't expect your guests to have to keep asking what is OK and what isn't.
Well, I just ask because I feel it eases the homeowner of feeling like they are making some demand on me, the guest. Some do see removing shoes as an
very unreasonable request. Seeing I don't care either way, I ask. It isn't a big deal, IMO. In all of the years that I have been asking, I have always been met with a simple "Yes, thank you for asking!".
Oh, and I don't expect my guests to keep asking what is ok and what is not.
Then again, I grew up removing my shoes. I can't even remember going into a home where I didn't remove my shoes. Strange, now that I really think about. It is funny, I carried over habits that I was taught as a kid.
When I go to people's homes I ask them if they want me to take off their shoes. Most people say "oh, no no no no no". In winter - if I know the people fairly well, I just bring my own slippers and don't listen to the "no no no no" business. I'm happier in my slippers anyway and I feel better knowing I'm not tracking dirt around their house.
(09-03-2010 01:46 PM)Arkved Wrote: [ -> ]yes, and if you came in my house and removed your shoes, I would consider it rude, because that is how I was brought up. different strokes for different folks. There is no right or wrong here, it is what your culture dictates and how you were raised that makes it right or wrong for your particular situation. If I were to visit your home, I would have no problem taking my shoes off, since it is your home, your rules, and your way of life, I would respect that. I would just ask for the same amount of respect if you were to enter my home.
WOW,I can't belive this topic had this many "legs" to it.
But I have to agree with my pal Arkved here.
Different strokes for different folks.
That is basically all that this topic boils down to.
Some folks take their shoes off other folks leave them on.
Its all on how you was raised.
As for me I am physically forced to wear my shoes till bedtime.
My sad case is, I could never visit anyone who insisted on me going without my shoes on. I cannot wear slippers, I cannot wear
slides, I cannot go in stocking feet, or bare foot. I have to be in my braces till bedtime.
The times I break that that DR ordered rule, in order to go swimming, I pay for it dearly, in huge waves of pain at night.
So, I would not be a welcomed guest in anyone's home that
insisted on me removing my boots.. It just ain't going to happen.
Edit: had my years of going barefoot as a child had not FUBAR'd my feet. I would be more then happy to go barefoot again, especially in the summer time.
Those were the days (sigh)
In your case TW I would not "force" you to remove your shoes. If you have to wear them for health/safety reasons of course you could leave them on.
(09-10-2010 08:00 AM)NKBurlington Wrote: [ -> ]In your case TW I would not "force" you to remove your shoes. If you have to wear them for health/safety reasons of course you could leave them on.
THANK YOU SO MUCH NKB that is mighty nice of you to say
My grandmother has to wear shoes because of health reasons (she had polio as a child and has special shoes). Nobody minds if she wears them indoors, and she is also unusually mindful of keeping them clean.
(09-11-2010 01:12 AM)Ziggy Wrote: [ -> ]My grandmother has to wear shoes because of health reasons (she had polio as a child and has special shoes). Nobody minds if she wears them indoors, and she is also unusually mindful of keeping them clean.
for your grandmother Ziggy, that had to be rough for her as a child.
FYI, I do try to watch where I step. i.e. watching out for mud or dog doo. And I always wipe my feet before entering someone's home as their guest.
TW, you would be more than welcome in my home without removing your shoes! Same with anyone using a cane, w/c., etc
I am talking about people removing their shoes when people are in and out of my home, numerous times a day, on a daily basis.
(10-07-2010 01:48 PM)beachbum Wrote: [ -> ]TW, you would be more than welcome in my home without removing your shoes! Same with anyone using a cane, w/c., etc
I am talking about people removing their shoes when people are in and out of my home, numerous times a day, on a daily basis.
Sorry to be late in thanking you too Beachbum. I do appreciate it too
You have no idea what a PITA it is to removing my shoes are.
That is why I have so much fun..... NOT... at the airports, LOL
But, I got smart on them. And I go through the Handicapped area so they can wipe my braces down. That way, I don't have to take my shoes off. But, still I am made to feel like an outcast cause of it. Not fun at all (sigh)
One more comment on this.
I was watching some show and there were about four people sitting around in the living room watching TV. They all had their shoes on and they all looked so uncomfortable. They were just sitting there with their shoed feet on the floor.
I thought about how I like to relax and watch TV and most of the time my feet are up on the coffee table or tucked underneath me on the sofa. I couldn't do that if I had my shoes on.
I don't know. I guess I just associate being at home with being comfortable and that does not include wearing shoes. It looks so formal and rigid and very, very uncomfortable.
So, for those of you that do wear your shoes in the house, how on earth is that comfortable? Don't you feel, psychologically, that taking your shoes off symbolizes the end of the day? You are now at home and you are able to get out of your work clothes and put on something more comfortable (whatever that might be for you) and relax.
And what about that? When you change out of your work clothes (or maybe you don't. Maybe you hang out in work clothes at home), do you then go and put your shoes back on and walk around the house?
Well, there's a huge difference between going to someone else's house and going to your own. My shoes are off the second I get home. I leave my shoes on when I'm in someone else's house, unless I'm staying the night with family (and then I take my shoes off once I know we are done going in and out).
Interesting, because the show I was watching (Blue Bloods), they were in their own home but left their shoes on.
Yeah, but that's fiction! Just like where the women have sex in six inch stilettos. (Tell me true, now -- if a Canadian woman won't allow shoes on her carpet, is she going to allow them in her bed?!!) ;-)
As for Blue Bloods, I still haven't figured out how many people are living in that house, and how many are showing up just for the Sunday Dinner. I wouldn't take shoes off for a dinner, even at my parents' house, if I were leaving in just a few hours.
I wear a sort of support slipper at home. It's like those ugly crocs but isn't closed-in. I do go barefoot sometimes, though. I associate being home with taking off my bra, not my shoes. I do take off my work shoes, but I replace them. Again, also, we have three dogs. I prefer to wear shoes. And so do they! JK.
Yeah, I know it's fiction...
LOL eslbee! I love to take my bra off as well but I'm not really a fan of my boobs hanging fast and loose.