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That's it, I quit, I'm no longer reading or posting at the military forums anymore! Not only are the boards full of stupid, ignorant, retarded MOOOmies, but when I come into a conversation late, the moderator immediately posts after me "CLOSING, OLD THREAD"!!

Which, might I add, is ludicrous. I follow the rules of the forum...you're not supposed to post on threads older than ONE YEAR.... every thread I post on that is a little old is no older than SIX MONTHS...yet because I seem to bring up a point that is good or against what the others have said, the thread is immediately closed! It pisses me off!

Not only this, but it seems everyone there are a bunch of sappy, whiney, pro-life, choice-haters (and don't get me wrong, if you want to be pro-life fine, but be INFORMED). They are also all about bitching and complaining....Anything truly significant that I need help with, when I post about it, I got no helpful responses! It seems there are maybe TWO wise women there...the rest are either teenagers or moomies or BOTH.

Whenever I posted something truly deep or honest, like a deployment confession or a deployment poem I wrote, I got slammed for being "too depressed" and told to "get out of the house". I'M NOT TOO DEPRESSED! I posted that poem to show others it was ok to feel like that sometimes, and had to explain this! WTF is the matter with these people?!?! On my Facebook support group Her War Her Voice this type of honesty and deployment confession is PRAISED because it helps others feel like they're not alone. Apparently the type of people at this military forum have the mental capacity of 3 year olds!! Did I mention the moderator who deemed my latest post unworthy is only 22???

Don't ever go to militarysos.com for support or camaraderie, because you will find nothing but a bunch of placenta-brained dolts!!!! AGAGAGAGAGAGHHHHHH!

I would avoid all things military if I were you. I know your husband is a soldier, but you aren't. You have your own life; so live it the way you want. Ask Anastasia; she knows how to do this.

It's true, I have very little to do with DH's military life. I never go to those forums, I avoid mandatory fun as much as I'm able, and when I do go I keep the conversation to dog subjects and that's about it. Most of these military peeps and their spouses are just too different from me.

But I do understand that you're way out in the middle of nowheresville Kansas, so it's not like you're in San Diego and have a million other awesome things to keep you occupied. I know it's hard. This forum and FB have been very helpful in keeping my sanity. You're about to start a class, right? You'll be able to focus on that soon, and that will be helpful. Those dumbass military boards aren't worth your time.

I agree guys.... And yes Anastasia I'm starting a summer class June 7th. I usually don't do the FRG things, but I'm getting involved with volunteering and attending town meeting stuff... I find I like the bigger-issue military things and not the stupid gossipy wife crowds. I am a volunteer with a veterans' organization and we have our big homeless vet event at the beginning of June.

It's just irritating.... Like you Anastasia, here and Facebook are some of my only networks for sanity due to my isolated-ness. I was hoping those boards would help me connect more...hahahahaha what a joke Ohh, I did suggest to Fort Riley today to have some non-parent, childfree focused events/groups.... we will see how that goes. lol

When you all talk about "mandatory fun" it boggles my mind. It's got to be bad enough to be a military spouse, I can't imagine being stuck in Kansas to boot.

You remember when I was stuck in Oklahoma! Ugh, it was the most depressing 23 months of my life. And things could be worse, there was a time when officers' wives were expected to be gracious party hosts and be VERY active in FRG stuff and similar. Someone told me that back in the days the wives even wore their husbands' ranks on their own special made blazers and had to host or participate in all kinds of tea parties and events (real tea parties with tea, like the old days, not redneck racist protests of the same name!). In fact, an officer's wife's conduct and behavior could negatively or positively affect his career. How fucked up is that?

It's not like that anymore, things have changed as wives have become more independent--a little bit behind the civilian world, though. I don't host shit, and I hardly attend anything. My hair is purple and have tattoos that show. I'm openly CF and a progressive Democratic Socialist. It has no bearing on DH's career. His current CO's wife, however, is of the old guard. She's always inviting me, and a million other spouses, to some huge event somewhere. It make sense, you take people away from everything they know, their families and friends and homes, and drop them somewhere new every couple of years, they don't get to choose where they live, the spouses never stay anywhere long enough to have a real career in anything, kids are always brand new in school. It's extremely stressful. So the military creates all kinds of activities to sort of artificially create a new social network or family network for you so you don't feel so isolated and lonely. But what happens when you're an outsider like me? It doesn't work. I meet and socialize with the spouses and I'm reminded more than ever how much I don't fit in. But lots of people LOVE all that shit. I'm just not like them.

I once didn't marry a guy for all those reasons Anastasia talked about. I was getting out (at an earlier point than when I actually DID get out) and he was staying in. I told him I wouldn't live on base, go on base for anything, and I wouldn't have an ID card because I wouldn't be his "dependent." I would have a career and if I needed to stay someplace or go someplace for it, that's what I would do. Once he understood that he withdrew the proposal. I suppose I should have realized then that I should have gotten out then anyway, but like a moron, I stayed a few more years.