05-09-2010, 02:32 AM
My background is a bit strange I am a Y-gen raised my baby boomers. My mother was 42 when she had me and my father was 39 and he was in a wheelchair. I was a complete accident both of my siblings were already out of the house. It's kinfd of ironic because when she was 19 she had trouble getting pregnant which is suppose to be a woman's most fertile time and many woman at that age have to spend 10's of thousands of dollars on IVF treatments.
With my father disabled he pretty much raised me while my mother worked so I never had a traditional view of gender roles. However I did witness something that is rare for a Y gen. That is an equal and loving marriage my parents have always stood by each other and loved each other despite all the crap they have been through. Something that is rare since most of my friends and classmates parents are divorced or were raised by single moms. I did not get along well with other kids and perfered the company of other adults
I believe my first chidfree thougts came from my sister she ran off when I was a baby and had a child with a convicted child molestar. Thankfuly she never married him, but she did unfortunately marry a deadbeat. I think my sister might be mentaly ill because she constantly lies and seeks attention. My niece I am afraid has not made it well off she is extreamly needy and disturbingly sexual for her age. I have tried to play the big aunt/sister for her, but I have little patience or time for it.
This and other observations made me believe that having a child should be a privelage not a right, You are taking another persons future into your hands. All children should have home,food and shelter with loving and stable parents. This conclusion made me wonder if I should have children myself.
As I looked into my own personality I realized I never saw myself as I and mother. I love my younger cousins, nephews and niece, but I can not handle them for long periods of time. I am very introvert and after a period of time talking with people I need my space or I'll feel drained which you can not do with kids and I need quiet time.
I have little patience with children and tend to expect them to reason like adults and get frustrated easily. I do like children I enjoy holding babies and toddlers and giving making kids balloon animals,but I would not have one myself.
However, I am pro-life and if I did get pregnant I would carry the pregnancy and give it up for adoptions. I have even look up the adoption process. I know it is unusual for a chilfree person to be pro-life and even stranger due to the fact I am an atheist.
With my father disabled he pretty much raised me while my mother worked so I never had a traditional view of gender roles. However I did witness something that is rare for a Y gen. That is an equal and loving marriage my parents have always stood by each other and loved each other despite all the crap they have been through. Something that is rare since most of my friends and classmates parents are divorced or were raised by single moms. I did not get along well with other kids and perfered the company of other adults
I believe my first chidfree thougts came from my sister she ran off when I was a baby and had a child with a convicted child molestar. Thankfuly she never married him, but she did unfortunately marry a deadbeat. I think my sister might be mentaly ill because she constantly lies and seeks attention. My niece I am afraid has not made it well off she is extreamly needy and disturbingly sexual for her age. I have tried to play the big aunt/sister for her, but I have little patience or time for it.
This and other observations made me believe that having a child should be a privelage not a right, You are taking another persons future into your hands. All children should have home,food and shelter with loving and stable parents. This conclusion made me wonder if I should have children myself.
As I looked into my own personality I realized I never saw myself as I and mother. I love my younger cousins, nephews and niece, but I can not handle them for long periods of time. I am very introvert and after a period of time talking with people I need my space or I'll feel drained which you can not do with kids and I need quiet time.
I have little patience with children and tend to expect them to reason like adults and get frustrated easily. I do like children I enjoy holding babies and toddlers and giving making kids balloon animals,but I would not have one myself.
However, I am pro-life and if I did get pregnant I would carry the pregnancy and give it up for adoptions. I have even look up the adoption process. I know it is unusual for a chilfree person to be pro-life and even stranger due to the fact I am an atheist.
Just wanted to say I always felt the same way as a kid, I felt more at home with other adults and completely out of place with other kids. I also need my own space and quiet time... so in a way I feel you on that! I also have little patience and get frustrated easily. 
to WKYN DreamsOfGabija Or would you rather be called Paige? I understand your situation and I applaud your parents for sticking together through thick & thin.
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so of coarse I have dogs. Though I have only one house dog