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Hi All
I just wanted to let you know that
at 9:15PM EST On Jan 27th, on my husbands birthday no less. My 84 year old mother passed away.
She is NOW PAIN FREE!!!!
She suffered 5 long years with Parkinson's
The last 2½ years in a nursing home unable to move and on a steady downhill decline into muscle atrophy month after agonizing month.
But it is all over now, and she is PAIN FREE at last.
My only regret is missing saying goodbye to her by 5 lousy minutes
But, I did see her this past Thurs Jan 21st. And I had a bad feeling things were headed south a lot quicker then my shit head brother had originally thought.
But that is another story.
Anyway the funeral will either be Friday afternoon or Sunday Afternoon
I do not know which as yet.
I may still be in some sort of shock. I guess the grief won't really hit till I see the casket
But I guess the saying goes "LIFE goes on" holds true each and every day.
So live every day as if if was your last. Cause you never know it just might be, your last that is.

It is so good that she is not in pain anymore!

I'm sorry for your loss TW~

I'm glad she's not in pain anymore, and I'm sorry for your loss.

I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm glad that your mother is no longer suffering.

I am sorry for you loss. I lost my mother in 1998 and it is really tough.

Sorry for your loss.

TW- so sorry for your loss and am glad you look upon it as you do. Such pain at the end should be addressed and not left to suffer.

I am so sorry. It truly is bittersweet. When my mom died of Alzheimers, I was sad that she was gone, but at the same time I was relieved that she was no longer suffering horribly.

TW, I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. ((((hugs))))

Sorry for your loss, TW.

My sympathies. My biological mother suffered from MS and it was a relief when she finally died.

Sorry for your loss TW.

I had the same thing recently with the death of my grandmother, who had dementia for 5 years. My father had trouble coping and complained about the ungrateful people who said that she was better off after being little better than a lump for 3 years, so I couldn't tell him that I agreed with them. It's sad, but I hope a million times over that I never get to her point.

My condolences...

Sorry for your loss. *hugs*

Thank you one and all
I just wanted to give you an update to let you know that
I have a little time to process my grief
Cause the funeral is not till SUNDAY Jan 31st, The last day of the month!
So not only did she mess up my poor hubby's birthday, she messed up his whole month too!
Why she could not hold off till FEB I will never know.
But then she would be spoiling another person's month to whom I hold very dear lol.
Yes Bob & I are very spoiled.
Not having children by choice, tends to do that to a person.
So instead of celebrating a normal birthday. We celebrate the whole month of said persons birthday.
Come March we will spoil our MIL to the best of our limited abilities.
LOL
Anyway, My MIL agreed to attend the funeral too.
So that was very cool of her.
And I gave her a big hug for that.
Now she is the ONLY mother I have left, (sigh)
Well thanks to everyone who replied to this post and thanks for all
your well wishes as well.
I am hanging on.
The toughest part was dealing with the Rabbi.
I just told him, I can't talk about it right now.
So he said if I thought of anything, to let him know.
And since I was taught not to speak ill of the dead. I think I will keep my big mouth shut for once, lol
Thanks again everyone

Sorry to hear your mother has moved on to a new space-time continuum, but glad it's a pain free one. My mom died in 1998. You get used to it eventually. Sometimes you will still miss her, and cry, but then again, you will enjoy the good memories. I find as time passes, the better memories outnumber the bad ones.

We'll be thinking of you.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

I'm sorry to hear of your mother's passing.