10-25-2009, 10:52 PM
I have to vent about two women I know from doing dog agility. The first woman, F, is going through a terrible time with her 19-year-old son. Apparently, this summer he's gotten himself on crystal meth, blowing off college, and, in my opinion, just having a having a hard time being an adult. OK. I was that kind of kid. Although I didn't do meth, I certainly wasn't going to do anything the "right and socially acceptable" way. F is a nice lady, very nice, but she lets her family walk all over her. In the past she has cancelled on agility trials because her husband HAS to deal with their boat that weekend or leave early from practice because she HAS to pick up her son (like her husband cannot be bothered). Just the other day we were having a doggie play date at someone's house and she got ALL flushed and upset with herself b/c she forgot to call her son for a planned wake-up call at 10:15 am. She's always saying that her family comes first. This weekend she signed up for an agility trial. She actually made it and stayed all day, except at the end she got a phone call that something was going on and she had to get home right away. The entire day she seemed preoccupied and upset at something. She even said a couple of times that people without kids just don't understand how it is...
What the fuck, it seems to me that by putting her family first all the time that she doesn't get to do anything she wants to do. She is religious and goes to bible study class. This is why I don't like the bible, because it encourages women to stop living and only focus on catering to other people who they certainly care for and love, but there should be a limit. Why do women like this put themselves so far down the totem pole?
Ok so there is that vent.
There is a second woman from my agility, M, who is a nice and doesn't have kid problems. Her daughter is 19 and going to college and being a great kid. The problem is that M insists on doing dog agility with a little itty bitty 3 lb Chihuahua. We practice at night and often late, to 10 pm. Her dog is always acting like she doesn't want to be there and I always thought it was because it was late at night. But this weekend the dog was behaving the same way and worse. Little Stellla, potato dog, actually threw up. I figured it was from being nervous all day. Stella was shaking all over and whining when she was in her pen. M "wasn't sure what it was"!! And then it was all about the dog getting sick. I was so irritated at the end of the day thinking about how she carried on about how her little dog just didn't do the runs. I wished she would face reality and say her dog definitely does not want to do agility and stop doing agility. She is wasting everyone's time at practice and I got so tired of listening to her carry on all day about how Stella just wasn't up to it on that run.
Oh, and the worst part is that I was talking to another woman, E, who is really good at agility and has a great dog, about going to an out of town trial about four hours away. She said she would like to go and M was standing right there and so we (I am guilty too) both included her in the question of whether she was going to Las Cruces or not. She said she would like to go with the two of us. (YUCK) Now I am sorry about saying anything at all because we talked about all three of us sharing a room. It is bad enough taking a chance with E and a motel room, but throw potato dog in there too and I know I will not get good sleep which is extremely important when doing dog agility trials that start at 7 am.
I just don't understand how M would even think about going to Las Cruces for a dog show when her little dog was obviously hating agility that very day. I thought she would say no. I am crossing my fingers she doesn't go.
I got tired of listening to all the chit chatty talk. I was so glad when DH showed up; it made M sit away from us. Within an hour, I told him how much I appreciated his quiet demeanor. He was reading a book. I didn't realize how much on edge I was until he showed up. I felt myself really calming down when I wasn't sitting next to people on a constant "on."
End of all venting.
What the fuck, it seems to me that by putting her family first all the time that she doesn't get to do anything she wants to do. She is religious and goes to bible study class. This is why I don't like the bible, because it encourages women to stop living and only focus on catering to other people who they certainly care for and love, but there should be a limit. Why do women like this put themselves so far down the totem pole?
Ok so there is that vent.
There is a second woman from my agility, M, who is a nice and doesn't have kid problems. Her daughter is 19 and going to college and being a great kid. The problem is that M insists on doing dog agility with a little itty bitty 3 lb Chihuahua. We practice at night and often late, to 10 pm. Her dog is always acting like she doesn't want to be there and I always thought it was because it was late at night. But this weekend the dog was behaving the same way and worse. Little Stellla, potato dog, actually threw up. I figured it was from being nervous all day. Stella was shaking all over and whining when she was in her pen. M "wasn't sure what it was"!! And then it was all about the dog getting sick. I was so irritated at the end of the day thinking about how she carried on about how her little dog just didn't do the runs. I wished she would face reality and say her dog definitely does not want to do agility and stop doing agility. She is wasting everyone's time at practice and I got so tired of listening to her carry on all day about how Stella just wasn't up to it on that run.
Oh, and the worst part is that I was talking to another woman, E, who is really good at agility and has a great dog, about going to an out of town trial about four hours away. She said she would like to go and M was standing right there and so we (I am guilty too) both included her in the question of whether she was going to Las Cruces or not. She said she would like to go with the two of us. (YUCK) Now I am sorry about saying anything at all because we talked about all three of us sharing a room. It is bad enough taking a chance with E and a motel room, but throw potato dog in there too and I know I will not get good sleep which is extremely important when doing dog agility trials that start at 7 am.
I just don't understand how M would even think about going to Las Cruces for a dog show when her little dog was obviously hating agility that very day. I thought she would say no. I am crossing my fingers she doesn't go.
I got tired of listening to all the chit chatty talk. I was so glad when DH showed up; it made M sit away from us. Within an hour, I told him how much I appreciated his quiet demeanor. He was reading a book. I didn't realize how much on edge I was until he showed up. I felt myself really calming down when I wasn't sitting next to people on a constant "on."
End of all venting.
