Sometimes I get thinking about the "other side," the life of a happy mother with children. So what do I do when such thoughts enter my head? I start googling for articles that will remind me that I am a perfectly sane woman with a wonderful fulfilling life just the way it is. And it is true. I really am very happy with my life right now. My life with a wonderful husband whom I adore and without children would not be what it is if I had children in it, even stepchildren.
I wanted to share a nice article that helped remind me of this. It is from last year.
Children? Who needs them?
Not a bad article except for this quote:
We try hard not to resent our childless friends, who, in comparison with us, breeze through their lives flashing more cash, getting more sleep and having more fun and freedom. "Marrakesh next weekend?" they murmur to each other. "Why not?"
I'm tired of having people assume all CF people are wealthy.
Good point. I thought the same thing too.
(10-11-2009 01:34 AM)Eddy Wrote: [ -> ]Not a bad article except for this quote:
We try hard not to resent our childless friends, who, in comparison with us, breeze through their lives flashing more cash, getting more sleep and having more fun and freedom. "Marrakesh next weekend?" they murmur to each other. "Why not?"
I'm tired of having people assume all CF people are wealthy.
AMEN EDDY I WISH I was wealthy, then I would not be worried about losing our home.
ROFL that was the exact quote I Cut-n-pasted to comment on: We try hard not to resent our childless friends, who, in comparison with us, breeze through their lives flashing more cash, getting more sleep and having more fun and freedom.
Bbut I was going for the getting more sleep and having more fun angle. I get razzed A LOT by my childed friends because of my carefree life and tons of sleep. I get loads of resentment about how much I travel, but people forget that I travel on the EXTREME cheap, and don't stay in hotels opting to sleep in a van or a tent or at friends' and eat peanut butter sandwiches instead of fancy restaurants. It's just that travel is my PERSONAL priority, the way kids are theirs. I don't get the jealousy, I really don't.
(10-11-2009 05:08 PM)Jo Wrote: [ -> ]ROFL that was the exact quote I Cut-n-pasted to comment on: We try hard not to resent our childless friends, who, in comparison with us, breeze through their lives flashing more cash, getting more sleep and having more fun and freedom.
Bbut I was going for the getting more sleep and having more fun angle. I get razzed A LOT by my childed friends because of my carefree life and tons of sleep. I get loads of resentment about how much I travel, but people forget that I travel on the EXTREME cheap, and don't stay in hotels opting to sleep in a van or a tent or at friends' and eat peanut butter sandwiches instead of fancy restaurants. It's just that travel is my PERSONAL priority, the way kids are theirs. I don't get the jealousy, I really don't.
Because they were sold a bill of goods, and they're supposed to be as happy as you, and they'e not.
"And it brings with it hidden advantages. Breastfeeding, for instance, reduces a woman's chances of rheumatoid arthritis as well as breast and ovarian cancer. It also helps to maintain bone density.
"That may offset to some extent the broken nights, toddler tantrums and teenage terrors to come."
Not even close, thanks. I'll just take my chances.
Lots of things reduce the chances of breast cancer. I'll stick to exercise and eating right, and skip the 18 years of childrearing!
I agree Eddy. I hate the assumption that we have tons of cash and take lavish vacations every year. Ha! I wish.
Obviously we have a bit more disposable income than some parents but to be honest, most of the parents I know seem to be doing pretty well for themselves in the cash flow department. Unless of course, it's all a sham which in some cases, might be the case.
I thought about it and I guess technically I do have disposable income. Since I don't have children I have the choice to not give a damn about my career since there is no worry about maintaining the traditional middle class lifestyle. Jo made a good point about how she can travel even if it is on the cheap but at the same time could she do that if she had kids? Still, I'd rather be poor and CF than wealthy with a family.