(10-30-2009 05:48 PM)eslbee Wrote: [ -> ] (10-30-2009 05:33 PM)beachbum Wrote: [ -> ] (10-30-2009 03:42 PM)eslbee Wrote: [ -> ]We know from tracking that the package arrived, but we never heard anything directly from the family, so we won't be doing that again.
Got that right! I stopped giving Holiday gifts to many of DH's family members because they were to fucking lazy to even acknowledge that they got them. When did a simple thank you card get to be too much to ask? Honestly.
Well Eslbee, think of all of the money you will save! NICE!
We're sorry they were raised by wolves, but it's not our fault. We're certainly not going to reinforce bad manners.
People are
slow these days. I mean, connecting that a thank you = more gifts? Wow...how easy is that? I know a lot of people do not believe in thank yous, but I do, so it does bother me.
My latest beef is with the same people
always arriving empty handed to every party or event that we put on. The
same people that never invite us to anything, but obviously feel that we are always here to give them an all-you-can-eat buffet and offer them free-flowing booze (ya, the exact people that openly criticize the brand of wine we are serving). It really bothers me, but they are related to DH, so there isn't much I can do or say about it.
(10-30-2009 06:24 PM)beachbum Wrote: [ -> ] (10-30-2009 05:48 PM)eslbee Wrote: [ -> ] (10-30-2009 05:33 PM)beachbum Wrote: [ -> ] (10-30-2009 03:42 PM)eslbee Wrote: [ -> ]We know from tracking that the package arrived, but we never heard anything directly from the family, so we won't be doing that again.
Got that right! I stopped giving Holiday gifts to many of DH's family members because they were to fucking lazy to even acknowledge that they got them. When did a simple thank you card get to be too much to ask? Honestly.
Well Eslbee, think of all of the money you will save! NICE!
We're sorry they were raised by wolves, but it's not our fault. We're certainly not going to reinforce bad manners.
People are slow these days. I mean, connecting that a thank you = more gifts? Wow...how easy is that? I know a lot of people do not believe in thank yous, but I do, so it does bother me.
My latest beef is with the same people always arriving empty handed to every party or event that we put on. The same people that never invite us to anything, but obviously feel that we are always here to give them an all-you-can-eat buffet and offer them free-flowing booze (ya, the exact people that openly criticize the brand of wine we are serving). It really bothers me, but they are related to DH, so there isn't much I can do or say about it.
Without knowing any more about it than what you told me, the first question that springs to mind is, why not stop inviting them? These nieces are BJ's family, but she has no sense of obligation that overrides oafish behavior.
(10-31-2009 12:53 AM)eslbee Wrote: [ -> ]Without knowing any more about it than what you told me, the first question that springs to mind is, why not stop inviting them? These nieces are BJ's family, but she has no sense of obligation that overrides oafish behavior.
I wish were only that easy. DH
insists that they be invited and believe me, it is a huge ordeal every fucking time. DH is an "old school" person and truly believes that family is first...even if they are rude, selfish, mooching losers.
It is one of many reasons why I never, ever go to their place.
beachbum - so funny you brought this up - I was thinking of starting a thread about this! It's amazing to me that someone would arrive at someone else's house for a dinner or a party and not bring a single thing. What goes through the heads of people like that?
I was wondering if it is still considered polite to always bring some form of hostess gift nowadays. Seems like that's lost on the younger generation.
And eslbee - I'm sorry you haven't gotten a TY. I hope you get one eventually!
CNK, thanks, but we don't mind either way. We learned something.
beachbum, why not tell DH it's up to him to do the entertaining? Opt out.
That sucks there has not been any acknowledgment your gift was received. Sounds familiar. It takes all the fun and reason out of buying or thinking about buying something nice for kids you care for when their parents don't care for you or their parents don't have manners. I wouldn't be surprised if the excuse "Oh, I was so busy with newborn baby that I forgot to call or send their thank you notes" will be heard down the road.
I used to go through this sort of thing all the time with my sister, but now that my sister has recently felt that I am worthy to talk to, she gets her kids on the phone to say thank you for stuff I send. It didn't used to be this way and it hurt.
Opilies, I guess we are just tough old buzzards. We don't get hurt, we are grateful they gave us a signal that they are worthless. Saves time.
BJ ALONE got a "thank you." It was full of excuses and Jesus-babble. BJ was not impressed, and decided no more presents. After all, I did most of the work on that present, and they didn't even address me. She IS planning to write them back eventually, reminding them thay have two aunts here, but as they were so late, she's in no hurry, either.