I think every family has one of these. It's a guy or gal who INSISTS on documenting every moment of every family occasion even if said family gets together on a monthly basis.
In our case, it's my DH's daughter-in-law. Don't get me wrong, I like her, she's a sweet woman, but jeez! You would think she hasn't seen us in 5 years. Every family outing is, "Wait let me get a picture of you in front of this or that!" or "Oh, let me get a picture of you and Dad and Uncle Ray and Aunt Bertha," whatever! So annoying, especially if you are in a place like NYC and you're trying to get from point A to point B and she has to stop and take a picture every five minutes!
I've even said to DH under my breath: "Oh, no, not another picture!" He just laughs and likes to humor her.
I basically bought my camera so that could take pictures of nature and my dog, really! It's a rare occasion that I take pictures of people, unless I haven't seen them in a long time or if it's a special occasion like a wedding.
Thanks for allowing me to vent!
I think people like to "collect" memories -- this is opposed to actually living them. I gave up carrying my camera on vacations and at family events, because I found myself too caught up in taking "good" and "important" pictures, and not enough time enjoying my vacation!
What Prairie Girl said.
Many times it is like people want those literal Kodak moments.
Can you say to her something like, "You know what, candid shots are so much more fun. How about one or two poses at the beginning of the day, but you can take candids when you feel like it without posing." Hopefully it would humor her and keep the day moving.
I understand the enjoyment of many shots, but some of my favorite family shots are candids of my grandmother sitting upside down on a chair or Grandpa intently telling a family friend something. The stories behind those shots are more interesting than "that is Uncle Bob and Aunt Ginny at the Sears Tower."
Some people like to appoint themselves the group or family photographer because it makes them feel needed and important. Maybe they are awkward at social functions and this is their way to participate without having to interact in a traditional way.
My heart goes out to you lablover. It sounds like something out of a Chevy Chase movie, lol Very irritating indeed
TG I don't know anyone like that in my own life.
All you can do I guess is grin & bare it, lol
O.T BTW Great seeing you on the boads again. How are your doggies doing?
Here is a photo of her reading the morning paper.
CF Scorpio Wrote:Some people like to appoint themselves the group or family photographer because it makes them feel needed and important. Maybe they are awkward at social functions and this is their way to participate without having to interact in a traditional way.
I think that's very true. For some people it's easier to be behind the camera.
We have a photographer in our family - I sort of like it - it is nice to have lasting pictures of the memories. When he doesn't bring the camera I miss it a little.
Like Gingerzing said, I would prerfer that they weren't so posed. It reminds me of an old Monty Python sketch where a woman is showing someone her photos and she says: "And this is Uncle Ted in front of the house. And this is Uncle Ted at the back of the house. And this is Uncle Ted at the side of the house..." LOL!
I agree with what CF Scorpio wrote, but she said it better than I could.
OMG could you know my cousins ha ha. I have 3 cousins who are sisters to each other it sounds like them.
Nah most likely not. I mean, they will take photos of each other shopping the counters at Wal-Mart. One would look thoughtfully at the counter while the other photo'd. Then they would photograph each other picking up an item... and they must have a photo of themselves EVERY TIME they go out to dinner. They take photos of their styrofoam cups from where they have lunch, the take out bag, everything. They take photos of cups of tea. They take photos of their desks and computer equipment. They photograph themselves and each other ALL the time then insist on plastering them on 5 different photo sites and networking sites like we haven't seen them enough...They photo themselves to the point they seem so conceited.
They see each other ALL the time but are constantly taking photos of each other just sitting around, cooking, playing scrabble, they'll even photo the scrabble board. They'll just go out in the yard and take photos of themselves... just to see themselves in the photo I guess. I mean, standing around the yard or their living room. For awhile it was a weekly set of them playing rock band. Same thing over and over YAWN. I've never seen anyone take SO many photos of food either! It's like everything they cook or eat has to be photo'd and SHARED 5 times. Ugh we get it freakin' enough already.
Needless to say I (and my sis who is equally annoyed) have quit looking and blocked them from Facebook feeds, etc but sometimes it's just hard to avoid.
Otherwise I know compared to others in my family I seem like I photograph a lot, but if I'm with family and we see them only once every 1-2 years I see nothing wrong with photos. I don't expect poses, maybe just a couple then I photograph scenery.
I feel your pain!
My dad does this but he takes it one step further...he snaps candid photos at inopportune times! Pictures with mouths open when we are eating, candid photos of me in a bikini (I sure as hell don't want that framed on the wall or passed around at Xmas) I reflexively move out of the way, put my food down and cover up with a sweater when the camera comes out. I would rather the pictures be posed so I'm not shown to eveyone with my worst features showing with no makeup and eyes closed looking like dork of the century! FWIW no one else likes his candid shots either...he ends up yelling at us and getting huffy because everytime he pulls out the camera we all groan and get up and leave!
Jen
ps. Kelly's looking cute! How's she doing?
LabLover Wrote:I think every family has one of these. It's a guy or gal who INSISTS on documenting every moment of every family occasion even if said family gets together on a monthly basis.
DH's entire family is like this.
Everyone has their digital and video cameras running at all times, for everything friggin' thing.
Just last week there was a group of us meeting for lunch. DH, his son and the son's "GF" (who is 25 years older than he), DH's daughter and two of her friends.
As usual, the son's "GF" had her 3+ glasses of wine and started slurring questions and filming everyone.
I calmly and politely asked her to please not film me because I am self conscious and uncomfortable in videos. She states, "Ok", then proceeds to film me. I ask her politely in a different way, figuring she didn't hear me/understand me the first time. She continues to film, but tries to be secretive with it. I asked again...and again...and again.
I finally gave up and told DH I was getting the fuck out of there. I also told DH that I will probably NEVER attend functions where she is if she is going to be so incredibly rude and disrespectful.
She is a rude biatch anyway and loooves to drink ....lotsa vino.
On that note, I was a bit peeved w/ DH because he didn't step in and say
anything to her! He knows I HATE being in pictures planned or unplanned, but as usual, he said squat because it is better that I be upset and hurt as opposed to upsetting his son of the slutty GF (and that is a whole different thread...).
(Oh, and I mentioned this is a different thread, but I will throw it out here: DH's Brother took a video of one of the female Cousin that he HATES (a video of her eating, walking, trying to get up from a low-level chair, etc.) and then dubbed in all sorts of obnoxious sounds to it as well as editing in parts so it looks like she is shoveling food in her mouth over and over, waddling while she walked...you catch my drift. Then, another person "stole' pics from my FB page and then put them on phony magazine covers w/ rude captions, for everyone to see).
Hey, I love taking pictures!! I have an awesome digital camera that also takes videos w/ voice recording, but I am respectful regarding the photos I take of people. My cats and the local raccoons pose non-stop for me though. They love it!
i think it's getting worse now with all the cameras on phones, and digital photography in general. At least when there was film you might not want to waste film with bad photos.
dogsbreakfast Wrote:I feel your pain!
My dad does this but he takes it one step further...he snaps candid photos at inopportune times! Pictures with mouths open when we are eating, candid photos of me in a bikini (I sure as hell don't want that framed on the wall or passed around at Xmas) I reflexively move out of the way, put my food down and cover up with a sweater when the camera comes out. I would rather the pictures be posed so I'm not shown to eveyone with my worst features showing with no makeup and eyes closed looking like dork of the century! FWIW no one else likes his candid shots either...he ends up yelling at us and getting huffy because everytime he pulls out the camera we all groan and get up and leave!
Jen
ps. Kelly's looking cute! How's she doing?
Kellyu's great! Thanks for asking! How's the Murph?
noelle Wrote:i think it's getting worse now with all the cameras on phones, and digital photography in general. At least when there was film you might not want to waste film with bad photos.
That is what I was thinking. Most people would not have a film camera and buy the film, take the time to develop, etc unless they were professionals or were in situations where it was appropriate. People didn't "snap snap snap" at mundane routine moments of life, everyday.
beachbum Wrote:(Oh, and I mentioned this is a different thread, but I will throw it out here: DH's Brother took a video of one of the female Cousin that he HATES (a video of her eating, walking, trying to get up from a low-level chair, etc.) and then dubbed in all sorts of obnoxious sounds to it as well as editing in parts so it looks like she is shoveling food in her mouth over and over, waddling while she walked...you catch my drift. Then, another person "stole' pics from my FB page and then put them on phony magazine covers w/ rude captions, for everyone to see).
OMG... that is HORRIBLE. I don't even have the words to describe that, that is messed up!
Hi,
glad Kelly is well, she's so cute!
Murphy is doing great, getting a little grey around the eyes and muzzle and that makes me realize time is passing
He has news though, Murphy is engaged to a girl golden!!
We are in the process of adopting another Golden from my job (I'm the kennel manager of an assistance dog school part time) Her name is Saffron and she's little, red in colour, has a mohawk on her head and she was born in New York at an assistance dog school there! She so so sweet, I'm going to post pictures an an announcement once the adoption is "official"
Cheers,
Jen
LabLover Wrote:dogsbreakfast Wrote:I feel your pain!
My dad does this but he takes it one step further...he snaps candid photos at inopportune times! Pictures with mouths open when we are eating, candid photos of me in a bikini (I sure as hell don't want that framed on the wall or passed around at Xmas) I reflexively move out of the way, put my food down and cover up with a sweater when the camera comes out. I would rather the pictures be posed so I'm not shown to eveyone with my worst features showing with no makeup and eyes closed looking like dork of the century! FWIW no one else likes his candid shots either...he ends up yelling at us and getting huffy because everytime he pulls out the camera we all groan and get up and leave!
Jen
ps. Kelly's looking cute! How's she doing?
Kellyu's great! Thanks for asking! How's the Murph?
My group of friends used to be like this. They used to take tons and tons of pictures at every single get together. It got to the point that I felt like we were sitting for an hour long photo shoot! They've calmed down a LOT from that and I am eternally grateful.
I personally am not much of a picture taker except for scenery and my pets. I am a sucker for that. But I hate posing for pictures and video. I've always been so self-conscious about having my picture taken. I'm even more self-conscious about being on video. Don't ask me to talk on camera especially at a wedding or other social function. I will fucking bolt for the door! I've gotten up from the table before when I saw the cameraperson coming around. I hate the invasiveness of it. If perhaps, you asked me prior to shoving a camera in my face, I'd be happier.
I tend to carry a camera so that I can hide behind it if someone starts taking photographs like crazy. I don't mind a few, and I try to take some when I'm travelling, but I don't like people who need to have the visual record and don't seem to consider that there are anti-social people who don't want to be in front of the camera either.
I have found that those people who are quiet and are aided with interactions by their cameras are not often getting people to pose. They tend to be quietly taking 'candid' shots, or photos of things/animals. Then again, this may be true of only my group.