OMG, that's just perfect! Now you don't have to say a thing, except offer a sympathetic look, and warn them that he has to "register under Megan's Law". Then you can pretend to be above it all and refuse to provide details -- "but I'm sure you can look it up on the website".
Lol, that is true. I try to tell myself to keep things in perspective whenever I start feeling angry or upset. Even when we were dating, I would often seriously contemplate just what kind of a life we could have had together, always worrying about who would recognize him or find out about his "situation." It got really rough after awhile.
He is a lying, cheating, piece of crap. He currently has NO job, lives at home with Mommy & Daddy (and is totally supported by them), cannot leave the 5 boroughs of NYC as a condition of his probation, and cannot be at a public event or a house where there are kids under the age of 18, and has to go to weekly probation and sex offender meetings. I honestly don't know that I could/would have wanted to deal with that for much longer.
Right now the main things that are pissing me off are these:
#1: the way that H is seemingly so loyal to my ex even after finding out that he is a cheating scumbag. I mean no offense, but what does that say about H's character? At first, he was very supportive of me and now he's playing the diplomat saying that he doesn't want to get in the middle of me and my ex. WTF?
#2: That this girl is either so enraptured with my ex or is blind and stupid as hell not to see the lying, cheating, loser piece of crap that he really is.
#3: How my ex could be this much of a dirtbag and have done so many bad things to so many people, yet he is the one with a GF (he made her out to be some gorgeous model-type) while I am here alone (not that I want him...it's just the principle that it seems like I'm getting the shitty end of the stick while he's on cloud 9).
My mom tells me not to worry, that in time things will change. She doesn't think that either my ex's new relationship or his relationship with H will last. She tells me that I will have the last laugh. It's just working through the hurt in the meantime that's hard.
Holy smokes! Dude is fucked up. You are soooooooo much better off away from him.
Sure, it looks like he and his ex are back together and happy and blissful, but he's a cheat and a freak, and they will not be happy forever. He'll treat her like shit, and she'll be the one who has to carry the burden of being in a relationship with a sex offender. Who needs that shit?
Quote:Sure, it looks like he and his ex are back together and happy and blissful, but he's a cheat and a freak, and they will not be happy forever. He'll treat her like shit, and she'll be the one who has to carry the burden of being in a relationship with a sex offender. Who needs that shit?
I know that putting things in perspective, it is all true. I think that it was hard to comprehend that while I was involved with him because I cared about him. Truth be told, it became one drama after another with him, and it got exhausting having to deal with listening to him vent on and on about his "problems". Let her deal with it for a while and see how long it lasts. I have to remind myself that it was a gift being unburdened of his drama.
Good idea or bad idea, I've decided to distance myself a little bit from my two friends for the time being. I'm not ignoring them, I'm just not going out of my way to make plans with them either. I'm not really in the mood for fun right now and quite frankly, I'm still a bit peeved at them for not coming out and giving me the support I needed. Hell, I got more support from my best friend's sister over this matter. But regardless of whether or not H remains friends with him, my
best friend should be standing by me. But instead, I sense a reluctance from her because I think she's siding with H. Not because she thinks what my ex did was ok, but because H doesn't want to discuss him, so therefore, neither does she.
I'm going to give it another week or so to see if I'm feeling better. If not, I might make a few counseling sessions at school to help me work through this mess and get on with my life.
Thanks everyone for your advice.
