why do men think I want to listen to their relationship problems? truly, don't give a flying rat's ass how their ex- treated them, what she is doing now, why you are still married on paper, etc. ad infinitum. just because I am stuck behind a retail counter and am polite, does not mean I am a therapist, or want to hear you bitch about your current or your ex-, or that since I'm a captive audience and nice to all customers means I want to date you. or be hit on in any way. aarrgghh!
Men who do this typically have a low self esteem, and seek comfort in any ear that will listen. I have experience both from the retail standpoint and as a counselor. Your best bet is to say something like, "I'm sorry about your situation, but I'm really not the audience for this!" Then give a casual smile, so that you don't come off mean, bitchy, etc (even if you feel that way and want to pound them in the face!! haha)...and go on about your business.
And all men (ok, most), take "niceness" as flirtation...it's universal. This has happened to me no matter what job I had. I am a generally nice person...but apparently I "flirt" with people and don't know it. Whatever! If they hit on you, and it's obviously unwelcome, simply thank them for the compliment, and at the same time shut them down by saying you're simply not interested. When it comes to a "being hit on" situation, you have to make your intentions clearly known, because some men will take this as an indication you are flirting with them, if you do not automatically let them know where you stand!!
Sorry you have to deal with this...good luck...
Wow. That sounds pretty offensive to me. So glad I no longer subscribe to pay TV!
Jen M.
(03-27-2010 04:00 PM)NKBurlington Wrote: [ -> ]WTF is with TLC's fascination with "little people"? Really? I've been seeing ad for "The Little Chocolatiers"? WHO. THE. FUCK. CARES? A bunch of midgets running around making chocolate? This is entertainment?
Ugh.
There is a BITCH at work that I cannot stand. She is always fucking correcting people. Over petty issues, too. I guess she hasn't realized that she is far, far, far from perfect.
Leave it to her to ruin a conversation with some snide, condescending or off-topic remark. It is so odd to me and I don't understand it at all.
I suppose that deep down she is just a bitter, angry, controlling and envious person that cannot control what she says.
Poor thing, lol.......
Our next door neighbor, Joe, died three weeks ago, and I did not find out until last night when we were coming home. His housemate told us.
I wish I'd known sooner. I had not seen Joe in a while, and I had a bad feeling.
Jen M.
There is something really wrong with a system which denies someone basic food stamps when they have no income just because they committed a felony 15 years ago. This crap has got to stop!
(04-01-2010 06:55 PM)ozarkmoon Wrote: [ -> ]There is something really wrong with a system which denies someone basic food stamps when they have no income just because they committed a felony 15 years ago. This crap has got to stop!
That IS fucked up.
Today I saw a sign above the candy aisle reminding those on food stamps people that they can use their stamps to buy junk. Sorry, but if you are that broke (and I guess, hungry), I personally don't believe that one should be buying sugary shit w/ it.
Well, another CF Meetup Group in San Diego bites the dust. You guys may remember a few months ago, one of the two CF groups was basically inactive, but there was another one and our member here, Tommy, tried to join only to be told he wasn't allowed because he's not married. I was a member and asked the organizer to show me where it said members had to be married, and he said he was thinking of changing it to married/CF only when Tommy tried to join. Then the very next day, the organizer welcomed a brand new member named David (I think) who said, "I'm single and CF and looking for other CF people to socialize with..." or something similar. So I asked the organizer to explain to me why this single David fellow was just allowed to join and my friend Tommy cannot, and the organizer deleted our conversation on the message board and had nothing further to say to me, so I left. Fuckers.
So I always hoped the other, inactive CF group would become active again, and just recently it has. The original organizer stepped down and two new people took over. They've changed the rules and now it's just supposed to be young adults having fun drinking in local bars without children around, so now parents are welcome. WTF? Also, they're just going to do bars and clubs, nothing else. Admittedly, I don't think the new organizer is going to win too many parents over because he mentions that this group is for having fun without screaming brats, and parents can join in if they don't mind leaving their suburbia bubble and heading to bars located downtown. The first meetup is at a bar downtown on a Saturday night. I love going downtown, but going to a loud bar where you can't even talk and get to know people, and all they want to do is drink, well, that shit ain't fun.
On top of that, I took a look at the organizers' pages and was not terribly impressed. It's a couple and the woman's face is a mask of Southern Cali style plastic surgery. She's got big fake bubble breasts and giant puffed out fish lips, that she drew lines around with dark lip liner in order to look extra good. Not. And a new member joined just today and in her photo she's wearing a skimpy bikini and her breasts are giant fake plastic round things, and her quote is: "I like to party!"
Needless to say I've had to leave this group, leaving no more viable CF meetup groups in town. You stay klassy San Diego!
Reason 5281 for me and BJ to stay home. People are such a disappointment.
I hate being on the rag. Ugh - pissy mood, killer cramps and nausea to boot. Day three - today - is the WORST. Please go away!!!
And, stupid me thought it would be a good idea to have a family BBQ today. Yippee. What was I thinking?
Why is it that people who snore are never woken up by their own loud snoring? I mean, really? How the hell can anyone sleep through that noise?
Why do people send mass e-mails without checking if it's true using snopes.com?
I got one where they claim In God We Trust isn't on the new dollar coins. I sent her the snopes debunking.
(04-04-2010 10:22 AM)NKBurlington Wrote: [ -> ]Why is it that people who snore are never woken up by their own loud snoring? I mean, really? How the hell can anyone sleep through that noise?
I do wake myself up, but BJ doesn't. Hence, separate bedrooms.
(04-04-2010 12:22 PM)noelle Wrote: [ -> ]Why do people send mass e-mails without checking if it's true using snopes.com?
I got one where they claim In God We Trust isn't on the new dollar coins. I sent her the snopes debunking.
Isn't that fun? Seems they always come from loonie right wingers. I love doing that.
What I love about snopes is how the people who spread those emails actually get angry at you for pointing out that they are wrong.
(04-04-2010 04:34 PM)Eddy Wrote: [ -> ]What I love about snopes is how the people who spread those emails actually get angry at you for pointing out that they are wrong.
Especially if you "reply all". LOL
(04-04-2010 07:38 PM)NKBurlington Wrote: [ -> ] (04-04-2010 04:34 PM)Eddy Wrote: [ -> ]What I love about snopes is how the people who spread those emails actually get angry at you for pointing out that they are wrong.
Especially if you "reply all". LOL
Absolutely. I do it every time, and gradually the number of idiot mass e-mails has dropped off.
My boss's DIL is preggo. I may have to kill myself before the second coming arrives. I should estimate how many people she'll show/email baby pictures to once it comes out. She sent pictures of her kid's graduation to people who had never even met him! Some of them didn't even know she had a son. She's telling EVERYONE.
I just WISH someone would respond, "Woohoo! Another resource sucker is joining the planet."
(04-05-2010 02:22 PM)catsnotkids Wrote: [ -> ]I just WISH someone would respond, "Woohoo! Another resource sucker is joining the planet."
I double dog dare ya!! LOL!
Work is giving me shit again about having to take time off for doc appointments. I have another health problem I'm trying to get to the bottom of--unrelated to the problems that led to my surgery. It's going to require more doctor appointments. My supervisors tried to hound me into getting a note every time, but I talked to HR and found out that is not required.
I'm so pissed!
Jen M.
(04-05-2010 02:37 PM)beachbum Wrote: [ -> ] (04-05-2010 02:22 PM)catsnotkids Wrote: [ -> ]I just WISH someone would respond, "Woohoo! Another resource sucker is joining the planet."
I double dog dare ya!! LOL!
If this was my retirement year - IN A HEARTBEAT!!!!!! 17 more years until I've got that freedom.
