(10-29-2009 12:38 AM)Nadleeh Wrote: [ -> ]Inspired by a friend's LJ entry, I was looking at costume sites, specifically for little girls' costumes. Instead of being amused by the thought of a grown (albeit fictional) man dressed up as a princess or a ballerina, I was disgusted by how sexualized the costumes were. Five-year-old girls should not be showing their butts or midriffs (like, from hip to boob, not just a little sliver of skin), even if it is Halloween! The number of costumes I saw with short skirts, fishnet stockings, and knee-high boots was appalling. I felt dirty just looking at them.
Maybe I'm just old-fashioned, but it was a pedophile's dream. 
It is appalling, isn't it? I cannot understand why parents want to sexualize their young children. WTF is up with that?
(10-29-2009 10:50 AM)Bittercat Wrote: [ -> ]Eddy, vent away. I'm glad you are standing your ground, and I really hope she does not get another dog. I agree, too, that if she's declining as you say she seems to be, she should consider moving in with "dickhead."
Jen
The thing is that dickhead's wife is a registered nurse. I can't think of a better situation than that. She doesn't want to give up her hometown though and she sure as hell wants another dog. What is most disturbing to me is that she admitted that she likes dogs because you can control them. Yes, she used the word control which explains a lot about how she has treated me. I guarantee it. By New Year's she'll have another dog to control.
It's nice that I can release my tension here.
It does sound ideal.
My PAM: I'm having a flare up so bad that I've had to cancel ALL of my activities for this weekend. There were 3 Samhain rituals I wanted to attend (Friday, Saturday, Sunday--not more than one in a day.) Not happening. We'll be at home, hanidng out candy--IF we get any trick-or-treaters.
I hate being ill!
Jen M.
Three (ETA one) rants today:
1- if you are going to cut through half of the traffic and sit in the turn lane, stop the fucking car. Others may possibly want to turn left and are trying to get past your pokey ass. That is why I honked at you and flipped your butt off- I wanted to turn, you moron!
2- don't just drop the kiddies off at Sonic and let them run free. WTF are you doing letting your small children (under 10) run around and collect more sugar at 9 p.m.? Stupid f'ing breeders!
3- at first, it seemed to be an April Fool's Day joke, but it was October. 3 days ago, my fav radio station of 70s and 80s hits changed formats (happens nearly every other month in this market, sadly) to all Christmas music all the time. Dayum!
Got the Flu, been sicker then a dog ( no offence to dog lovers, lol)
This is the first time in days I have been able to connect on line.
I need to take my sorry ass back to bed. But,
I just needed to whine a little.
Had I got the flu shot WHEN I wanted to get it. I would not be as sick as I am right now.
But hubby asked me to wait till we can get on some assistance program that we have an appt with on Nov 30th
Too late now DH, I already got the damn flu.
Not to worry I am making him pay for his cheapness. By making him wait on me hand and foot, lol
Yes I know I could have gotten a shot for $25 But we just did not have it to spare. When you got to break into the piggy bank to buy milk, you know times are tough.
But I could have charged it.. Hell everything else is on our credit cards
whats $25 more?
But he wanted to wait! grrrrrr
But anyway.. I am going to take my ass back to bed.. If you don't hear from me in a while. Not to worry, I need plenty of time to bust this damn high fever and tummy pain for good!
TW, I hope you feel better soon.
Jen M.
I'm 'enjoying' my very first experience with hives. Freakin' awesome.
I guess I should be grateful that I didn't pick up a nasty infection or something at work, but my family has a bad history of hives. Both my parents have had them, and they had a lot of trouble getting rid of them. (My dad had them nonstop for over a year-with several different types of treatments, and my mom got them like 3 consectutive summers in a row). So I ended up going to an urgent care clinic because I didn't know where to go on a friday evening or on the weekend without an appointment. On the positive side, they did take really good care of me, and the hives seem to be going down. Hopefully, they'll go away and stay away.
Koi - sorry to hear that! I hope they gave you a prescription for next time so you can nip it in the bud. I've had hives for my entire life. They are no fun. I have no idea what causes mine other than rubbing or irritation in one area.
Yikes! I hope it passes quickly!
Jen M.
Stupid baggers. Who puts lettuce onto of fresh chicken? And a yogurt (in a plastic container) in with the canned goods?
Seriously I have brought SIX nice sized bags (4 that are flat squarish bottom) USE them.
Normally, DH goes with me and will just bag, but he had a meeting when I wanted to go. ESH.
gingerzing - and the managers at the store wonder about and fuss at me for packing my own bags -- this is the very reason why! And who puts bread on the *BOTTOM* of any bag? the ones at that store. crazy!
See. And a friend of mine in Taz said she has the same issues.
Today's long PAM
DH and I had a lovely fight Sunday about the house not being clean. It started with the fact that I asked him for my new car tag. The envelope had been on his end table and I had cleaned my car and figured it was a good time to put it on. No envelope on his end table.
Insert tearing through the house trying to locate it. And then him giving me a lecture of how he is "embarassed" when we go to other people's homes that are Better Homes and Gardens clean. And then come back to our place. I came back with the fact that I am NOT the only one that lives here and that he needs to put forth some effort. Please note, we had not found my tag yet. This is misdirected and not helpful. Which I also told him. So I do find the blasted thing... In a box with some of his paperwork?
So moving forward, I tell him that I will create a dual list of things to do and that we will start Monday night with it. (15 minutes per task, 3-4 tasks per evening.) And a couple things that we will do together. I make up something for each day and take home the super cool list for the week.
Great, but he decides that after we take the laundry downstairs that he will put away his summer clothes. Not on the list, but fine. Shouldn't take too long. Hey the laundry is going, could he also fold the clothes when they get done.
He comes upstairs after an hour. He is done with his clothes, but the dryer never stopped so he wasn't sure that the clothes were dry. (An hour and the stuff was his cotton uniforms?!?) Then he tells me he doesn't feel good. (and granted he is still sick this morning with some crud) His list? Sweep off the front steps and the cobwebs. Dust Ceiling Fans. Vacuum Living Room Rug (an area rug). I ended up doing the fans and the front steps.
But this is the problem. He tells me he wants to help and all. But when it comes down to it, he doesn't want me to give him stuff on a list. He wants to do what he wants to do, and then get bonus cookies for doing that.
When we get to feeling better, we will be discussing the phenomnon.
Ugh. Good luck, Gingerzing! That's very frustrating!
Jen M.
Boooo, gingerzing. I'm sorry you are dealing with this! I definitely would not let him get away with complaining about the cleanliness-state of your house - he lives there too and is just as capable as you are of cleaning!
I periodically go on strike from cleaning/cooking just to make the point and give myself a break. Last night I "made dinner" - that is I threw veggie burgers in the microwave and cauliflower on the stove. Jim did a load of laundry, cleaned up from dinner and made a crock pot chili while I did yoga after dinner.
When he was doing the dishes from the crock pot cooking he asked if it wasn't my turn - I told him I was on strike. It must have worked - the kitchen was clean this morning.
Every time that I lived with a man, I encountered the gender-based cleaning disparity that other posters are talking about.
My standards for cleaning are very very bachelor ( ie basic enough for no social embarrassment and no health problems).
The guys always wanted the kind of standards that require constant work, but did not want to participate, except in the most surface contributions.
This disparity was a cause for constant friction because I will not be someone's unpaid slave to keep up their household standards.
Cymbalta withdrawal is a hell I would not wish on anyone! I'm either in a homicidal rage or crying so hard that I can't breathe. OVER NOTHING.
I hate not having insurance.
I'm going to come into this with a set of different perspectives.
The reason guys will slack off with cleaning is because we know women will eventually say screw it and they'll do it themselves. Guys are perfectly capable of cleaning as is proven by bachelors who are able to make the place look decent when they are inviting a woman over. They just would rather not and unfortunately women have been brainwashed into thinking that it's their job to do it.
Speaking of brainwashing, I honestly think that people spend way too much time on meaningless housework. I can understand basic hygienic precautions to prevent disease and pests but how often do you really need to dust? Do you really need to dust the top of your fridge every week? It's like some commercial I saw for a cleaning product where they said it's a great part of your daily tidying up routine. I boggled at the idea that there are people who clean daily. Maybe it's because I'm a recluse but why waste so much of your time on stuff that's so dull?
One bit of advice I have is get a maid service if you can. Even if it's just once a month it's definitely worth it.
(11-03-2009 06:57 PM)Nadleeh Wrote: [ -> ]Cymbalta withdrawal is a hell I would not wish on anyone! I'm either in a homicidal rage or crying so hard that I can't breathe. OVER NOTHING.
I hate not having insurance.
Drug withdrawal is HELL for sure! I am so sorry you are going through it.
Eddy, for what it's worth, when I dated men, I let them live in their own filth. Of course it was their filth alone. I wouldn't let them live with me because I knew that they wouldn't clean up themselves, and neither would I.
Discovering this inability to clean is an excellent filter for ruling out useless slobs of either gender.
ETA: I Just saw the most awful "Dear Prudence" on this issue. I'll find it and post it in a separate thread.
Re: the house cleaning and gender. I asked my husband what was it about me that he really liked when we first met. He said it was an email I wrote to him warning him that I kept a very messy house. It was totally true. My apartment was like a disaster hit it. I didn't want him to get any wrong impressions about me if he ever came over and it was nice and clean. He was a messy person too. As time has gone on, we are no longer messy people. Sorry to hijack.
Gingerzing: I would be so mad if DH ever said something like that to me. I would make him take it back and threaten to never ever lift a finger for any cleaning again - which in my case is entirely possible given my history.