(10-18-2010 12:55 AM)noelle Wrote: [ -> ]I was taking a yoga class today & someone got in & stole my wallet(and 3 others'). THIS WAS IN A CHURCH, BAD KARMA FOR THE THIEF. It's been awful, my favorite wallet with driver license, credit cards, ATM cards, not that much cash at least. I can't get a DMV appointment for a month, so I will just have to show up and wait all day instead.
I'm so sorry. What a PITA! We had a theft of purses at our meditation center. There's no honor among thieves I guess.
Noelle, that's awful!
Jen M.
(10-18-2010 05:21 AM)beachbum Wrote: [ -> ] (10-18-2010 12:55 AM)noelle Wrote: [ -> ]I was taking a yoga class today & someone got in & stole my wallet(and 3 others'). THIS WAS IN A CHURCH, BAD KARMA FOR THE THIEF. It's been awful, my favorite wallet with driver license, credit cards, ATM cards, not that much cash at least. I can't get a DMV appointment for a month, so I will just have to show up and wait all day instead.
That is so horrible and just plain old MEAN!! I hope everyone reported it to the Police. What a hassle (((hugs))). I am so sorry this happened to you....and I hoe they catch the nitwit that did this!
We had to report it on an online form, they don't even send an officer out for something like this.
Teacher & classmates were very supportive, I felt so violated.
I hope they catch whoever did this too.
My wallet was found!! After spending 3 hours at the DMV, I came home and California Alumni Club contacted me and said my wallet was found in the bathroom of a local Subway shop(the owner found the card and called them). The thief must have used my cash to buy a sandwich, took my cards(except Macys and JJill) and dumped the wallet. Also used debit card to eat at McDonalds.
I guess I should go to the police station now(it's only a few blocks away).
WOW! It was found! That is amazing.
Still a hassle, but what a relief that you got most of the stuff back. I mean, they could have dumped everything in the trashcan or something.
They didn't buy JJill clothes????? WHAT the Heck? I would have taken your JJill card and shopped till I dropped. Forget Subway and McDonalds, lol. I LOVE JJill clothes. Just kidding, Noelle, I would have returned your wallet..... you know I am kidding about spending money on your cards.
I'm glad it was found. At least you can call and cancel your credit cards, if you need to.
Jen
(10-18-2010 09:48 PM)beachbum Wrote: [ -> ]WOW! It was found! That is amazing.
Still a hassle, but what a relief that you got most of the stuff back. I mean, they could have dumped everything in the trashcan or something.
They didn't buy JJill clothes????? WHAT the Heck? I would have taken your JJill card and shopped till I dropped. Forget Subway and McDonalds, lol. I LOVE JJill clothes. Just kidding, Noelle, I would have returned your wallet..... you know I am kidding about spending money on your cards.
Yes, I was relieved it wasn't in a dumpster!
Most likely the thief was a guy without a girlfriend(yay).
I just found out from one credit card company the guy used my card twice in one day at Target, so that set off their alert.($218 & $321)
Ugh, that really sucks, Noelle! Glad to hear you at least got some stuff back.
F*** my life! According to my research, if I consolidate my student loans and assuming that I have no major changes in income, it will take between 25-30 years to pay them off!
I really want to get the interest rate down, I was totally screwed when I took my undergrad loans. If I remember correctly, the goverment FINALLY capped the interest rate during my junor year, so some of mine kept creeping up.
Still gotta explore the options, may try to do a income-based repayment rate and see if I can get forgiveness after 10 years on some of my lower-interest loans. Still sucks, though.
Holy hell, Koi!
Jen M.
My thoughts exactly, Bittercat. My undergrad loans have already accrued $10,000 in interest!!! And my parents made me to go to a private college, saying they'd cover most of it and the few loans I would have to take I could pay off "in a couple of years." Maybe I misunderstood-in my mind, once you hit the double-digits, it no longer qualifies as " a couple." I mean I know I footed all of grad school with loans, but there's NO way I can pay off the undergrad alone in under 9 years. I should have risked getting kicked out of the house and enrolling in the community college for 2 years.
The nice thing about the option is I can pay more than the minimum payment if I do scrape up extra cash with no penalty, and pay them off faster. And it will lower the monthly payment so I can save up to replace my 10 year old car. Which I need for work, I can't travel between hospitals without one, so I'm praying like hell that it holds together for at least another year. Its been good to me thus far, but I'm terrified it will just die on me one day.
But yeah, I worth more dead than alive.
It looks like my mom will be going into a nursing home. Hopefully it will be temporary. I don't have anything against them, in principle, and I know there are a lot of wonderful people out there who really care about their charges.
It's the issue of adjusting to the changes in my mom's life and facing questions of my parents' mortality that is upsetting to me. Not only that, but we are not sure what's going to happen with her pets. My step dad will take care of them, of course, but we don't know what will happen down the road.
Nothing has been decided yet, but it's very likely that she's going into one. My mind has been racing, and I have not been sleeping much, even with the help of sleeping pills.
Jen
That's very sad, Jen.
Bittercat, sorry to hear about your mother. Just wanted to say I hope she has a smooth recovery and can return home soon.
Having worked in and with several nursing homes, I also want to add be sure to visit any facility in person at least once before she's admitted. There are many good ones out there, and it might help you feel more comfortable with the admission if you at least get a feel for the place first.
Thanks, Anastasia and Koi, for your good wishes.
Koi, I don't know that I will be able to visit any. They are about an hour away, and my step dad is working with her doctors on her released and rehabilitation. I just can't be there as often as I'd like. We are going up next weekend, but she may have been moved by then.
She is also perfectly lucid, and I have no doubt that she will have a say in where she goes or that she will speak up if she is not happy or comfortable with a facility. I believe they are looking at 3 different places.
She sounded good today, and she's been getting sleep. The trouble is she's now having heart problems. They are having to find a medication that will help with the neuropathy and not destroy her heart.
I appreciate everyone's support, and I did not mean to hijack the PAM thread.
Jen M.
I am so sorry that you are having to go through this Jen.
Dealing with a parent's health issue is always stressful.
(10-23-2010 11:11 PM)beachbum Wrote: [ -> ]I am so sorry that you are having to go through this Jen. Dealing with a parent's health issue is always stressful.
Speaking of dealing with a parent's failing health, what gets me are the pro-breeding people who say "Who's going to take care of you when you're old?" Why would people purposely want to put other family members through so much stress and heartache such as BC is going through? At some point in eveyone's life, peoples' bodies are going to start falling apart and systems are shutting down leading up to death. The last thing I'm thinking about is: "I must have kids so they can witness me dying when I'm old and make them deal with my failing health and funeral."
(10-24-2010 10:54 AM)Dog Holliday Wrote: [ -> ]Speaking of dealing with a parent's failing health, what gets me are the pro-breeding people who say "Who's going to take care of you when you're old?" Why would people purposely want to put other family members through so much stress and heartache such as BC is going through? At some point in eveyone's life, peoples' bodies are going to start falling apart and systems are shutting down leading up to death. The last thing I'm thinking about is: "I must have kids so they can witness me dying when I'm old and make them deal with my failing health and funeral."
And I don't think people realize that it is very, very difficult to care for a person when that person is totally dependent on you! You have to transfer them, feed them, change them, bathe them, provide their medications, etc. It is A LOT of very hard work work. It is a full-time job to truly care for your parents at home, 100%. You cannot do
anything else unless you have outside help.
It is fine and dandy when mom and dad are still all-together. Can talk and walk or even transfer themselves, feed themselves etc....that is not true 100% caring for parents IMO. That is helping out.
(10-24-2010 01:46 PM)beachbum Wrote: [ -> ] (10-24-2010 10:54 AM)Dog Holliday Wrote: [ -> ]Speaking of dealing with a parent's failing health, what gets me are the pro-breeding people who say "Who's going to take care of you when you're old?" Why would people purposely want to put other family members through so much stress and heartache such as BC is going through? At some point in eveyone's life, peoples' bodies are going to start falling apart and systems are shutting down leading up to death. The last thing I'm thinking about is: "I must have kids so they can witness me dying when I'm old and make them deal with my failing health and funeral."
And I don't think people realize that it is very, very difficult to care for a person when that person is totally dependent on you! You have to transfer them, feed them, change them, bathe them, provide their medications, etc. It is A LOT of very hard work work. It is a full-time job to truly care for your parents at home, 100%. You cannot do anything else unless you have outside help.
It is fine and dandy when mom and dad are still all-together. Can talk and walk or even transfer themselves, feed themselves etc....that is not true 100% caring for parents IMO. That is helping out.
Good points from Beachbum & Dog Holiday on this one.
My sister has been doing "double" duty on this. She ended up taking care of my parents before they passed away. She wanted to do it. It was really hard; especially having to take of my Mom. My mother had dementia and not only was she in bad health, she was abusive. A woman friend of mine one time told me that it's natural for two females to "go at it" with each other. My sister and my mother were at each other's throats all of the time. Also, my mother had put down my sister's husband a lot (knowing him that was understandable) and she even hit the kids (she did it because my sister didn't believe in disciplining the kids by hitting them).
And now my sister is taking care of her husband's parents. Both are in their 90s and have dementia also. I feel like lately, all of those things have taken it's toll on my sister. When I talk to her on the phone, she sounds very spacey and lightheaded. I think that there's a pretty good chance that my sister could have dementia now. She sounds like she's under anastesia (sorry if the spelling of that word is wrong!).
Just think, by the time her kids are in their late 20s, she and her husband may need care full time. Isn't that wonderful?
BB-Thanks.
Dog-My mom and I have a good relationship. No one is making anyone go through anything. Aging and dying is a part of our lives. I'm lucky--and so is my mom--in that I WANT to be there for her. If anything, it's my STEPDAD who is having to go through this. All of us kids live 40 minutes away or further.
I worry about them both but not because I'm expected to.
Jen
(10-24-2010 10:54 AM)Dog Holliday Wrote: [ -> ] (10-23-2010 11:11 PM)beachbum Wrote: [ -> ]I am so sorry that you are having to go through this Jen. Dealing with a parent's health issue is always stressful.
Speaking of dealing with a parent's failing health, what gets me are the pro-breeding people who say "Who's going to take care of you when you're old?" Why would people purposely want to put other family members through so much stress and heartache such as BC is going through? At some point in eveyone's life, peoples' bodies are going to start falling apart and systems are shutting down leading up to death. The last thing I'm thinking about is: "I must have kids so they can witness me dying when I'm old and make them deal with my failing health and funeral."