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LOL...... well its nothing to worry about I am not a criminal or anything This is my love life past I am talking about.
My old High school Pal and First Lover just contacted me in Yahoo tonight and I was floored.
For a split second I did not know If I should answer him but he knew my nick name and he knows my birthday which is my handle in yahoo
And if anyone else has Yahoo feel free to connect with me
My screen name is cc121454 Like no big secret to him.
And even though I REMOVED his name from my screen list. He saved me.. Cause I asked him and that was what he told me.
And I am still in shock.
I don't know what to say to him.
So I am hanging out here.. But Now An Old member of this group
just buzzed me... So I am saved.. from Yammering here.

Anyway.. Just curious if this happened to you what would you do? LOL
I know know one can be in my shoes or understand the complexioty of this realtionship of my old HS Sweetheart But he grew up looking ugly... Ok I said it.... Its true... I am sorry to be painfully honest..
But I already just about called him a Bore in my last letter to him... and he still contacted me..
Hmmmmm wonder why?
Anyway, I got to go.
This is freaking me out.
And I don't want to ramble anymore..

Part Two

OK I asked him point blank why did you hail me in yahoo.
He types out " cause I still consider you my "Friend""
I said even after all I said to you in my last letter.
And trust me ladies I lit into him like a shark to bait
Said sone unforgivable things and this ?? I don;t know what to call him takes it in good humor? Like guys help me out here do men take insults and shrug them off??????????
Apparently this one DID!!!!
And now Larry... went to get some Pizza's for his family
Yes he has kids & grandkids and TG I never married him.
And I told him that too. and yet he still wants to be my friend?
My hubby can't stand this.. And I am in such a mess.
I suppose I should just type a firm goodbye.
But yet its too late in for a penny in for a pound.
AND I Have not gotten to tell him about Boots yet.
So I doing this for "MY SON" whom I am so very Proud of.
And even though he scared my hubby half to death by being on top of the fridge and Bob took forever to finally Look up. We are still very proud of Boots! To which he never destroys anything except my one pillow which I was able to fix so it does not count lol

But anyway I
just need to finish what I started here.
I have to tell him this will be our LAST conversation for the Night for the rest of my life. I do not want my hubby to ever know.
So I emplore you all for your future silence
Cause I am in some deep shit here.
First off I am toasted.
Second Off I am not sticking around waiting.
So I will just write it all to him now. And end it before it starts again
Wish me Luck I will need it.

Part Three

I am so proud of myself I did it I totally NIPPED it in the bud. I am not going to hang around waiting for him to come back with Pizza for his family. And I am certainly not going to hang around while he describes what kind and from where and all those other boring facts that some men want to share with us women :eyeroll:
But anyway, I wrote a final "kiss off" to him.. Nothing mean or anything But I sent him this pix of me And my son, lol
And that was all I wanted to share.
And to tell him goodbye that I don't want to do anything to hurt my husbands feelings. And that should count for a lot in my book lol.
So I Broke our friendship if any with Larry, But FTR I don't want to do it..
Its the just the small cross I bare with my husband.
Which... If that is the only thing he asks of me..Its the least I can do.
So Goodbye & Good Luck to Larry and that was what I left him with.

I am very Proud of ME

If 99% of my exes even tried to contact me I'd block them asap. I don't need them in my life. I have one on Facebook and Myspace, but we were more friends than anything, and I was friends with his wife, his sister, and his whole family. The dating part is barely a blip on the radar in comparison to everything else.

I have another ex, if he were to just say hi and catch up that's fine, but I'm not going to be in constant contact. I'd prefer he go away after we satisfied our curiousities about where we each ended up.

On that note I have to confess, this is really bad of me. I like catching up with people from my hometown. That town is loserville with a capital L and most of the people suck. I love telling people, esp ones that were kind of snobbish, about my life today. While they are stuck with kids and divorces, dead-end jobs or living with mommy at the age of 30, I have a degree, getting another one, on my first marriage and living in England and traveling all over. I admit is self-indulgent but I totally get a kick out of it. People are really surprised and don't expect me to be leading a life very different from theirs.

Most of my friends are male and I am pleased to retain some of my ex-boyfriends as friends.
Just because it did not work out as a long-term romantic relationship does not mean that I can not value many aspects of the person as a friend.

Sounds like that situation was causing you a lot of heartache/turmoil. Glad you were able to just leave it all behind and be done with it.
I am still friends with most exes and not so much with a couple. Sometimes it's not worth the weirdness afterward and sometimes it is.

On another note, I've seen pics of Boots, but always next to stuff instead of people. I had no idea he was such a big boy! He's still cute as ever, of course!

Good for you, TW, you made the right decision.

I have a couple of ex's that are friends on FB. I actually just contacted one and he declined to friend me. No surprise - he's married - and probably it was a smart move on his part.

It's difficult to maintain a friendship with ex's but I believe it can be done. It's just a matter of walking that line between the past and the present. In some ways it's nice because the other person knows you really well. And maybe there's still a spark. But that makes it a little problematic, too, for the same reasons...

And ITA with daria - Boots is a big kitty! Cutie pie.

Yes, good call TW. Poor thing, looks like you agonized over it a bit. You don't need another "friend" like that in your life, especially if it makes your husband uncomfortable. Plus...he turned out ugly...Hahahahaha! No really though, sounds like you didn't have the greatest relationship with him anyway. Hope he gets the hint and doesn't bug you anymore.

You and Boots look so cozy in that picture. Ah yes...a kitty on my lap just makes me melt into relaxation. *ppppuuurrrrrrr*

Part 4
LOL Of course Larry felt he had to have the last word in this situation.
Not that he bothered to thank me for the pix or say that Boots is a nice looking cat to which he is ( Thanks to you all for the great comments, and BTW he is not that big only 13 pounds, lol.. Yep I know he has a tummy, lol he is my spoiled baby)
But no! He writes me telling me that my husband is a control freak and that he feels sorry for us. That he pushes me around and runs my life. Which is no where near the truth to any if it.
If anything I tend to control Bob and he loves it,
So Larry knows NOTHING of our life & love together & I don't feel I owe him any explaination to it.
But the idea of him having the last word bugs the crap out of me.
But yet If I was to humor him and write back it only adds fuel to my guilt.. Yea I know the infamous guilt train that I tell eveyone to stay off of, turns out that I am headed for a nice ride myself.
But anyway, I am so torn.....
Do I write him back and let him know he has it all wrong?
Or do I let him think what he wants to think and totally ignore him?
GRRRRR I hate when shit like this happens to ME! LOL

If he is writing something like that then he wants to get you angry and wants you to respond to him. Don't give him the satisfaction... just walk away!

I am guessing that he knows what things are like for you, at least I am guessing that he is lying a bit, but he is doing it for a purpose. Responding won't change his mind and it will only serve to make you miserable.

Don't respond. If he emails you again and you *really* want to reply then send a very short reply "I am too busy preparing for my Vegas trip and don't have time for you, sorry!" Every time you want to email him back, just say something similar. "I can't talk, I'm having too much fun!" Having a good life is the best revenge, even though they may never quite realise it

If you want him out of your life, do not respond. That is exactly what he wants, if for the dialog to continue so he can try to make you change your mind about being friends with him. If you are happy with your marriage and know that being friends with him would harm your marriage, then you have to weigh out what is more important. your marriage or your friendship with this one person. I could understand if he was saying that because your husband really WAS a control freak and controlled every person you could or couldnt be friends with, but that doesnt sound like the case here to me. Responding just lets him know its ok to keep writing, just ignore him, any new emails, delete without even reading, he will get the point eventually and just go away.

my 2 cents on the subject anyways

-Joe

Thanks Joe & Ziggy.. but not to worry he WON'T write again.
He is not the type to write. This was his only way of saying thank you for the pix by slamming me.. This was why I never married the S.O.B He always had to be right about everything he was always the "smart one" 4.0 GPA
That type of thing.
So this was his only way of letting me know he had the last word too And of course that was always important to him.
But we are all over,& that is fine by me cause I KNOW BETTER about my marriage! It is stronger then ever! And YES I AM doing a grand job of ignoring him. He is HISTORY
Thanks to one and all.
TW

Edit. BTW Juliepoo Boots sends his love... He Now adopted my heating pad.
LOL
I threw my back out a while ago, I am feeling better now. But anyway, I still have to leave the heating pad out and on low too cause he loves the heat, lol

AWWW! He adopted your heating pad! Of course, he's a smart kitty!

Wow, Larry sounds like an immature dorkus. Sorry you had to get that response. I know the feeling of wanting to give 'em all you got with a scathing email all too well...

Well hey, at least this made you realize that you've got a strong marriage. Now you can show him who is the bigger person by not buying into his CRAP. Glad you're feeling better. Happy Merry!